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to be worried about nursery girl on FB?

25 replies

hoppershopper · 14/05/2010 22:50

One of my DD's nursery girls is on my Facebook. She added me a long time ago, although i havent ever communicated on FB with her, her status updates automatically appear on my home page.
I am regulary reading things like

Really really really dont wanna go back to work next week

1 more day to work god so glad need this week off haha

God 4.15 can not come any quicker be running out the door home why does time at work go so slow !!!!

has realised that her life revolves around 15 minute breaks, lunch hours, and counting down to days off

AIBU to be a bit pissed off at this?

Dont get me wrong, i dont expect her to totally love her job, but i think im unhappy that im leaving DD with someone who really Part of me wants to send her a message on FB saying that i was a bit suprised that she felt that way,then i think i should report it to nursery, but i thinks that IS being alittle mean.
BTW shes young,and prob doesnt even realise or remember shes even got me on her list? Maybe this is just normal chitter chatter on FB and im reading too much into it?

WWYD??

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hoppershopper · 14/05/2010 22:51

sorry, meant to say im unhappy that im leaving DD with someone who doesnt give a monkeys.

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Imarriedafrog · 14/05/2010 22:53

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toddlerama · 14/05/2010 22:55

She's probably not enjoying her job, but she doesn't have to! It's luck of the draw with child care workers I think.

Meglet · 14/05/2010 22:56

yab a bit u. Although I can see what you mean.

She is probably still playing with the dc's all day and keeping them amused and safe.

As long as she is nice to the children I think you need to turn a blind eye to it.

Some people do put crap on FB.

SuziKettles · 14/05/2010 22:56

I would delete her.

People exaggerate, you can be good at your job and not live for it, everyone's entitled to a private life yadda yadda, but I know it'd wind me up to read that and I'd rather just blissfully think that ds is his nursery nurses' world (pfb)- for the time he's at nursery anyway.

Delete it and, as long as you're happy with the nursery and dd is happy at nursery, try to forget about it.

SecretSlattern · 14/05/2010 22:57

She doesn't have to enjoy her job?

Nettiespagetti · 14/05/2010 22:57

I'd delete her from my facebook and advise nursery, maybe not name [chicken emotion] but just say that one staff on ur facebook spends whole time moaning about being bored!

Leave it up to them how to deal.

SuziKettles · 14/05/2010 23:00

Actually, I've got a friend who's a Secondary School teacher who puts that sort of thing on Facebook - "x days to half-term & can't come soon enough" etc etc.

Thing is, she's a brilliant teacher and puts everything into her classes. I'd give anything for ds to have someone like her as a teacher when he's older.

She'd never have a parent as a Facebook friend though!

Mermaidspam · 14/05/2010 23:10

YABU - everyone hates their job at times

Missus84 · 14/05/2010 23:15

Delete her as a friend. Sounds like typical things any girl her age would write on FB about their job, just a shame she was silly enough to have parents on there!

radstar · 15/05/2010 09:02

you said she is young, she doesn't realise what she is doing and it is silly to write such thinjgs where parents can read them. It doesn't mean her attitude to the children is anything less than exceptional though. Lots of people would rather not be at work.

I work in healthcare, I love my job but I often think moan I don't want to go in tomorrow I have had such a good weekend etc

I wouldn't dream of showing those feelings to my patients though, I would hope that they all think they are those most important patient in the hospital when there are with me.

I can see why you would be put out and not want to read it, so if it bothers you that much delete her as a friend but otherwise it sounds pretty normal to me

Foxy800 · 15/05/2010 09:19

SHe sounds very young to me and is being slightly unprofessionally by adding a parent as a friend (unless you knew her before lo went to nursery).

if it was me i would delete her as a friend. ( I also bet she is completely different when she is at work with the children).

purepurple · 15/05/2010 09:25

This is the reason why, at our nursery, we are not allowed to add parents as friends on facebook. We are also not allowed to make any comments relating to work, children, parents, practices etc. We have all signed an addition to our contract.
FWIW, sometimes I love my job, sometimes I have bad days and never want to go back again. But, it never affects the way that I look after the children. It's not the children that cause the difficulties, it's normally my colleagues and managers.

Jamieandhismagictorch · 15/05/2010 09:33

I would send her a message. Simply say - does she realise there are parents reading her status. And leave it at that to make her own conclusions. Try and say it in a kind/jokey way.

grapeandlemon · 15/05/2010 09:43

She may have just had a bad day or exaggerating, or be a bit immature. Or alI three. I think YAB a bit U

kif · 15/05/2010 09:43

I know where you;re coming from... but on the other hand, my facebook statuses often refer to long, difficult days with my kids, looking forward to them going out for the day with nana etc etc..

They really are my world, which is why I try to keep it upbeat in front of them, and let off steam with my girlfriends (many of whome are on FB, iyswim).

Morloth · 15/05/2010 13:54

God if I had to work at a nursery I would be mainlining valium in the evenings.

Just stop watching her on Facebook. Why anyone would want any person to do with their jobs on Facebook is beyond me.

fanjoforthemammaries7850 · 15/05/2010 13:56

My colleagues all post like this...but when they are at work I have never seen a harder-working bunch of girls, so I wouldn't really worry.

NomDePlume · 15/05/2010 13:57

some folk are big fat drama queens. Most of them are on Facebook and are constant status updaters. She is probably one.

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hoppershopper · 15/05/2010 17:23

Thanks everyone for reassurring me! I guess i was just worried that her attitude would be reflected in her care of my DD.

I do understand that she likes her days off etc, dont we all! But i just thought it was a bit out of order to post that sort of comment for parents to see her opinions when the were showing obvious fustration at her job when her job is to look after my DD!!!

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porcamiseria · 15/05/2010 17:26

she is A TWAT posting like that when she knows she is friends with parents, I'd send a cryptic response back as suggested (I olike the :thats a shame DD enjoys it there line) then delete her so you dont see this crap anymore

StealthPolarBear · 15/05/2010 17:27

Well everyone has off days and lives for their time off, but she does need telling that she is putting you and any other parent on her FB in an uncomfortable position - entrusting the care of your child to someone who appears to hate it

Maleeka · 15/05/2010 17:35

Bloody hell theres no way i would friend the parents of the kids i look after at nursery! I'd lose my job for sure

We all have our off days when we're being spat on, kicked and punched, generally abused by 4 yr olds and watching the clock slowly get to 3pm .

But these overshadow the moments when you are walking in the playground and a tiny hand slips into yours attached to a huge beaming smile from a child who is so pleased to see you

I think this girl is just being young and doing what young people do! Jeez i sound 105!. I'd shrug it off or maybe ask your daughter what she is like with her.

compo · 15/05/2010 17:37

Yabu
you should defriend her

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