to think i should just give up?

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Ive a step-daughter who is expecting her first baby soon.
We met down the shops the other day ,whilst she was on her lunch break ,and decided to treat her to a new buggy for the baby. She has her heart set on a big "proper" pram (the type that has a carrycot iykwim).But as she travels a lot , she will need a fold up thats easier to get in and out cars/buses/planes ect.
She picked the one she liked and i bought it for her.As she had to go back to college ,i brought it home .
Later that day , i picked her up a buggy storage bag too. Txt her if she wanted it dropped off at her mums (where she is staying),she replied yes.
DH came home from work had his dinner , then took the buggy round(which wed built up for her ) First thing she said was - i wanted the red one.(wtf? she picked a different colour) Second thing she said -i still <span class="italic">need</span> a pram and then sat sulking - didnt even say thank you. We had promised to help buy the pram or cot for her - this was just a wee extra for the baby. So aibu to think my step-daughter is acting like a brat and should at least smile if shes given a gift.

You're going to get a lot of people agreeing with you and buying a buggy for your step-daughter is obviously a kind thing to do.

But this sounds a bit like there was some miscommunication.

Maybe you gave her the impression you were buying her a pram (you say you had promised help buy one for her) and she didn't particularly want or feel she needed the buggy so was disappointed, or now she thinks you won't help with the pram at all? And if she didn't like the colour, maybe she hadn't realised you were actually buying it for her and she hadn't yet made up her mind on the colour?

I agree with not looking a gift horse in the mouth, but people tend to be quite personal about buggies. And it's the sort of thing you only buy one of so if someone buys one you don't like, you're stuck with it and it's not like you can go buy another one of your own just because you're not so keen on the colour.

Take it back and tell her she may be better getting her own as you don't wish to offend. My friend's DIL is like this and it makes me want to give her a slap on friend's behalf.

Miscommunication or not... not saying thank you and sulking is brattish behaviour IMO !

No miscommunication at all , we stood in the shop for ages as she chose the one& colour she wanted, i asked her if she was sure it was that one she wanted , she was. It was also made crystal clear to her that the buggy would be a "little extra" and that she would still be getting help towards her pram/cot/whatever .Dh and i decided to give her £500 for the babystuff.
I think its just another of her little "stunts" to get me and dh to argue.
perhaps its just hormones?.

Hormones or

ignorance bitchiness

Don't give her the satisfaction of arguing, she's clearly a bit of a twat.

ignorant

Think i will tell her if she doesnt want it then fair enough just hand it into a charity shop.
She is expecting us and her mum to furnish her a house and go halfs on paying for her wedding too.
She can jog on.