to think that 'masculine cleaning blindness' is real

[biddysmama]

and there should be some sort of treatment for it!

dp said he would clean for me so i could rest (26 weeks pg,spd and a toddler!) he vacuumed the floor with a blocked hoover which picked up nothing! and didnt realise... he left dd's highchair with her tea on it, didnt wipe the kitchen surfaces or sweep the floor and went to bed cos he had finished

ds put on 'clean clothes' out of the dirty washing basket and didnt realise it was filthy and told me the bins had been put out... when they were still in the kitchen!!

I think it is a genuine kind of blindness ? they can?t see the little things ? and can?t intellectually make the connection between food waste left out and ants in the kitchen, dusty surfaces and the children?s asthma (or his own), not doing the washing and not having what he wants to wear.

I am mildly disabled and continually have to make the decision between risking getting on my hands and knees to clean the floor and possibly ending up in traction for a couple of months, dusting the shelves and being in a neck brace (these have both happened previously) yet still only I can see that you have to wipe all surfaces (including the vertical ones with orange juice drips on) or the cobwebs in the corner. He is very willing to help (unlike the children but that?s another story) but I have to remind him about almost every single task individually, day after day week after week and then point out how to finish the job properly. Every time. For 24 years.

I absolutely loath housework.

Training our DS' to be able to wash up / clean and no ther eis no such thing as male blindness - occurs in both sexes to a greater or lesser degree. Some people find certain aspects of cleaniless / household jobs more than others - example DW I don't think has ever cleaned the fluff from the tumble drier, cleaned out the shower trap from all the hair that collects there, filled dishwasher with salt / rinse aid - sure there's more. Can't say I'm the best at cleaning up as I go along in kitchen and we seem to regularly collect pile sof recyling and post that need sorting out.

We swap gender roles in our house. I see mess but can't be arsed to do much about it except in the kitchen. MrNC cleans more and has the 'testicular tracking device' which means he can find things I've lost...

Although he is short-sighted so didn't notice the toilet being skanky for a while.

My excuse is my hands are buggered and so had to give up cleaning some years back... and never got back into the habit. But on the whole he does hoovering and cleaning and I do paperwork as he's severely dyslexic. And take it in turns to do nappies.

Yeah, DP tried this on for a while after we first moved in together.

I spent a lot of time those first few months saying things like: "You apear to have left shaving foam all over the sink." and "I think you've left your dirty plates in the kitchen." and "I suspect you'll be doing the washing while I'm out."

He doesn't try it on now. If there's a job needs doing, he does it and does it properly.

most men can tidy no problem, few clean..there lies the issue.
tidying is different, picking things up and putting them where they should be...even small children do this. Cleaning is scrubbing the oven , washimg the scurtings, dusting away the cobwebs , stem cleaning the carpets , ect.
Only one man i have ever met cleans ...and i married him . (he even does the loo)

Nothing to do with gender.

It is laziness coupled with the acceptance from women (be it their mothers, or later their wives) that allows them to be "blind"

And OP, why is he cleaning for you? Does he not live in the house?

My DH maintains that men just have to ruin their DW's favourite blouse the first time they do the ironing, then they will never have to iron again.