Is it me or the other mum that is being unreasonable

[xstitch]

I was told at the school gates today that my daughter is entirely responsible for the bad behaviour of another child. I am horrified and feeling sick. struggling to type here through the tears. Obviously I want to do something about this and before someone accuses me of showing an 'oh no not my angel attitude I am not. I asked what exactly it was my dd had done. I was told just because. I said that obviously if my daughter was misbehaving I wanted to do something about it but could not tell her I was disciplining her 'just because' I need to tell her not to do a, b or c. the other parent just flounced off saying I was obviously unfit. I have asked he teacher and she seemed bemused about what dd may have done, saying she is a credit to me.

I am so confused.

Hmm, sounds like the other girl's mother doesn't want to accept responsibility for her daughter's behaviour. Ignore envious misguided woman, she clearly has some things to work through. I would accept the teacher's verdict, as she is impartial, and I expect you will too when you are less upset. Which is completely understandable.

Time for a nice cup of tea and a biscuit and to keep replaying "DD is a credit to me" endlessly through your mind while smiling.

Agree with what everyone says . Just laugh about it.

I remember telling my son off for something another mum said he'd done. My DS is so good normally, and he apologised profusely, even though he couldn't remember doing it. I later discovered he hadn't even been there - and it was her DD who had committed the offence. Luckily, my DS saw the funny side!

Agree with everyone that the other mother is quite unreasonable.

However, perhaps your child has said something to the other child which is embarrassing etc...so she "can't" tell you.

My Ds is 5 and told me that he had told another boy in his class that his willy was really called a penis! Now I can well beleive that some prudish odd types might take offence at that and classify it as "bad behaviour".

I would point out that I explained to my DS that it was best not to educate other children in these matters, and leave that up to their parents etc...

If there were any issues the teachers would be aware - so I would ignore it!

Ask your dd if she knows the other child/plays with her/likes her etc. Maybe you will find that something has happened which sheds light on this.

Othewise, ignore ignore ignore.

Sounds like the mother may be in denile about her own child, child may be teelling tales to her mum about behaviour HER daughter has done and pinning it on your daughter. Kids can be cruel. Have you spoke to your daughter about it? Does she know what is going on?

Or
The other Mum has made a mistake and it is someone else's child!

What a strange woman. xstitch - you must stop sending your DD to school with a gun, as clearly she has been holding it to the other girls head and making her misbehave.

silly woman.
my DD punched a longtime [male] bully of hers when she was 14, and the mother [who up until that point had been ignoring the letters sent directly to her from school] stormed in and demanded my DD was expelled. the school then produced a 10 page incident log of her child verbally and physically abusing mine.
my DD got a detention, her son got an exclusion for a week.
justice is best served warm with custard.