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Original poster

To judge based on this facebook comment?

32 replies

BertieBotts · 12/05/2010 23:22

Went on facebook this evening and a friend of mine has commented on one of her friend's pages "How is ur bump? x"

Friend's reply:

"She's a little shit already lol kicking me all the time, active just like her daddy!!"

(Paraphrased because I can't be bothered to copy and paste all the txt-speak)

But anyway... I just thought that it was really sad and a bit shocking Imagine being labelled a little shit before you are even born.

OP posts:
BAFE · 12/05/2010 23:23

nice

Firawla · 12/05/2010 23:24

YANBU that is really bad
maybe she meant it affectionately?!? I hope so
but yeah, its not very nice

DramaInPyjamas · 12/05/2010 23:26

Obviously meant as a joke.

booyhoo · 12/05/2010 23:27

i hate hate hate when people talk about babies as being "a little shit". as if the baby is naughty from birth and that excuses any naughty behaviour when they are older because it always was like that.

no, your baby is not a little shit, it is a baby and will behave like a baby. and when it is older and it is naughty it will be because it is a child and children are sometimes naughty. it is not because they are a shit.

pickledmonkey · 12/05/2010 23:28

leave her alone maybe?

ScreaminEagle · 12/05/2010 23:28

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BertieBotts · 12/05/2010 23:29

I haven't said anything to her pickledmonkey!

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Cannotfindaname · 13/05/2010 08:52

I personally wouldn't have liked to read it. I hate children being labled as little shits/sods etc, even in an affectionate way. There are other things you can say. Little shit conjures an image of some badly behaved terror.

tatt · 13/05/2010 08:58

Yes, YAB very U. I called my first bump lots of unpleasant things, although it isn't my sort of language. Wouldn't dream of saying anything like that in their hearing.

notnearlyasblondasiwas · 13/05/2010 08:59

YABU

mamasparkle · 13/05/2010 09:07

YANBU-what a horrible word to use about your unborn child,whether in jest or not.I would have hated to read that too,the mum sounds charming.

Fibilou · 13/05/2010 09:40

OP, do you have children ? Trust me I have called DD all sorts of names while giving birth/feeding through mastitis/being woken up loads in night. Doesn't mean she is going to be naughty or that I don't idolise her.

YABU and overreacting

wukter · 13/05/2010 09:42

Not a nice word to use but obviously said in affection. You are over reacting a bit.

SirBoobAlot · 13/05/2010 09:45

An acquaintance of mine gave birth a few weeks ago and yesterday her status was "FFS when with the little BITCH start sleeping through!!!". I remember the first weeks but really, a bitch?

RockinSockBunnies · 13/05/2010 09:46

YANBU - I think that's a horrid thing to say, whether in jest or not. A child in utero is possibly the most innocent being there is - how can a mother label her child that?

I'm a mother, I get exasperated from time to time, but would never refer to my child like that.

Ronaldinhio · 13/05/2010 09:48

yabu

obviously a joke, not sad or shocking

cupcakesandbunting · 13/05/2010 09:52

YABU.

I used to call my bump a little monster or a little terror when I was pg. I wouldn't have called him a little shit but people have different standards. As long as it wasn't said with venom then get your judgey pants off and mind your own

skihorse · 13/05/2010 10:15

YABU.

My little boy kicks me night and day, it makes me puke, it makes me cry and it hurts. I love him to bits but sometimes I wish he would just stop.

I've spoken to my midwife about this and she says it's a silly taboo that women can't "say" this - and we have guilt associated with feeling it because the general assumption is that we're supposed to be so filled with joy at every moment that only a demon would feel otherwise.

2shoes · 13/05/2010 10:18

yabu and need to lighten up

TheBride · 13/05/2010 10:28

This made me laugh a bit as yesterday I had a coffee with a friend and a friend of hers who I'd never met

My friend said "How's the pregnancy?" to which I replied

"Fine, but he's a right little kicker."

My friend's friend looked a bit shocked but didnt say anything. Anyway, turns out she thought I said

"a right little fucker."

Fortunately our mutual friend put her right.

biddysmama · 13/05/2010 10:31

thats horrible!!

i love my wriggly bump! dd had anterior placenta so hardly felt her move, this one never stops, my mw has just told me that an active baby means that they are getting loads of oxygen, which is obviously a good thing

BallpointPen · 13/05/2010 10:32

It's not a nice way to refer to your unborn baby but it doesn't mean she will be a horrible or abusive mother it just means her sense of humour is rubbish.

YABU to judge her too harshly based on this comment.

Alibabaandthe40nappies · 13/05/2010 10:33

YANBU. You can express negative feelings without resorting to calling your unborn child a little shit.

SirBoob -

larrysgal · 13/05/2010 10:35

Is she implying her partner kicks her?

bibbitybobbityhat · 13/05/2010 10:38

Yanbu!

How the hell can you call someone a "little shit" affectionately?

She sounds like pondlife.