AIBU to have gone on strike??

[macdoodle]

I am a single working mum to 2 DD's (age 8 and 2), I have an on off DP who lives and works away so we see him maybe a week every other month or so!
He has had a call to go back to work early so is leaving tomorrow!

Had to work all day, he has been at home sorting out the garden for me!

Came in this evening about6pm, and immediately went to start dinner wanting us all to have a nice dinner together (but am tired and irritable, long busy day, XH been an arse)...

So DD1 asks whats for dinner, and I show her the lovely picture of beef stroganoff that I am about to make! And she whines, and whines, and whines, and whines..........she doesnt want that, she doesnt like that etc etc!

So I lose the plot, and shout, and throw a bag of crisps at her, and tell her she can eat whatever rubbish she wants because I have had enough and am going on strike am doing no mum stuff tonight!!

Went upstairs, had a good cry, and a lie down, she came up and cried too, we kinda make up, but I say that I am staying on strike because I am tired of doing everything and not being appreciated!

Somewhere in the midst of this, DP has got a strop on and is sulking with a face like a slapped arse

Now I know he has been so good sorting my garden, and has come to see us all, but he knows things are tough, and he didnt even bother to come see if I was ok, or could he sort dinner/get a takeaway etc, and I feel like he is bhevaing like another child sulking because he hasnt had dinner made for him and a fuss made because he is leaving!

Am pissed off with all of them, DD2 fell asleep on the sofa so has gone to bed with no dinner, DD2 made herself cheese and crackers and we have had a chat and made up and she has gone to bed!

DP got himself a beer, I tried to ask him why exactly he is pissed off, he pulled a sulky face and said there was an atmosphere , I did try and make up and ask him if he wanted me to get him something to eat, so he pulled another face and said no! He is now acting worse than my 8yr old daughter, and I have had enough! I'm not a skivvy, he is supposed to be able to cook, but has never made us a meal (though is pretty generous at buying meals out or takeaways - which if he'd offered tonight would have defused the situation and probably calmed us all down)!

AIBU for being on strike!! He's not gonna get any tonight either, so he really will be in a sulk!

YABU not giving your children dinner.

Unless you've mistyped and they're 12 and 18. If they're 8 and 2 as you say then YABVVVU.

They're 8 and 2!
The 2 yr old would have had an early tea at the CM, and fell asleep before I could offer her anything!
The 8yr old made herself a plate of cheese and crackers, there is plenty of fruit out!

Neither will starve for missing one meal, they are healthy well nourished girls!

I disagree - missing one meal will do your children no harm, and its time especially the oldest showed some gratitude. In my house its eat what you are given or dont eat.

The little one is a bit small to blame, though.

Am I sensing other tensions and frustrations going on with you too?

But they weren't given anything were they? The OP stopped cooking and stropped off.

As far as as I can make out - 2 yr old ate at childminders, 8 yr old whined and was given crisps, so not starved, also more than old enough to make self toast. As for dp - can look after self.

Shes obviously had a bad day - noone is starving/neglected, dont make her feel worse. A good rest and hopefully a clean slate tomorrow, and hopefully her dd1 will realise that mum puts effort into doing things and complaining endlessly isnt on either.

At the age of 8 I'd say I'm not eating that if I got a bag of crisps instead. Result.

It's been a bad day. Either draw a big thick line under it or go through the issues making it crap and put an action plan together.

Agreed. A fresh day will help no end

YANBU

The 2yr old had already been fed and, as you said, the 8yr old got cheese and crackers later, which won't do any harm for once.

As for your DP, tell him to grow up. I'd have gone on strike myself in that situation.

YANBU. The DCs won't starve and DP can get his own dinner.