to be a leeetle bit upset with my friend?

[mosschops30]

Ans I am totally open to YABU, because I think I may be being a bit oversensitive.

I invited a good friend and her family to ds2 baptism. My dh and her dh get along well and our older ds's are good friends.

However she has declined because she says she has a family meal on that day.
Now before you all start her family do live fairly close by, theyre not all that close relationship wise and Im just a bit miffed that she wouldnt either miss it or try and re-arrange as ds2 will only be baptised once.

Its not going to affect the friendship or anything but I am in a bit of a huff about it. I just know if it were me Id say to my mum that I had something on and could we re-arrange

A real friend would be there for such an important occasion. I've attended weddings and christenings where I could have done other things, in the middle of exams, when my children were ill I've left them with my mum to go to a christening because that's what friends do.
FWIW Mosschops my friend had a christening recently and one of her oldest friends just didn't show, no explanation, nothing

Yanbu at all.

Oh come on! It is a bit weird, informal family get-together is not on the same level as a close friends one-off formal occasion.

Dont worry about it, better not to have anyone there who would rather not be there.

Aibu makes me laugh, everyone trying so very hard to be contrary

You'd be unreasonble if you were going to end the friendship over this, but you're only asking whether yabu to feel a bit peeved about it! Perfectly normal reaction in the real world.

Your dh is right, she has got her priorities sorted and for some reason this meal comes higher.

Personally, I would re-arrange the family meal if it is just a get together and not a special reason, so yanbu.

I think YABU. IMHO I think a christening is important to the immediate family (Mum, Dad, Grandparents, Aunts, Uncles and Bro and Sis) and maybe a few close friends who are god parents but I think it should be left at that. Its a special family occassion.

Wedding season is coming to an end now for our group of friends and we have moved into christenings and to be honest for some of them it means a hotel the night before, outfit, presents and the whole Sunday taken up. My DH and I both work full time and want to relax and do our own thing on a weekend. We have now decided we are going to be a bit more selective about accepting invitations and yes that means being a little selfish but why not from time to time.

And when we get our LO christening we will only be inviting immediate family and god parents. For some people it seems to be like a second wedding.

And when we get our LO christening we will only be inviting immediate family and god parents. For some people it seems to be like a second wedding.

Yep that's my view aswell hippopo. It should be left at immediate family and that's it. Not everyone wants to spend their sunday in a church. Families get little enough time as it is together these days without adding in friends christening/baptism dates.

Well, the meal is important to her family for some reason, and of course the christening is important to you. However, the meal went in the diary first, so I think you have to forgive and forget.

YABU. It is much better to turn down an invitation than to accept and then change your mind at the last minute.