To go or not to go?

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A friend of mine who I have known from the age of 10 is having a hen night soon. It isn't in my city so I will have to stay in a b & b. I don't know any of her other friends and I have a long term illness which means I get tired very quickly. My DS is 2.3 and I have seen this friend twice since he was born. I have already turned down the invite to her other hen weekend in Amsterdam.

Would you go or not bother? We were best friends on and off through school, it was off when she found someone better than came running back when she was fed up of them. I'm beginning to wonder why I am even asking this question.

If you don't want to go and are looking for reasons not to go then don't go.

She must still think of you as a good friend or would not have invited you, but that doesn't mean you have to go. Maybe you could do something like lunch another day?

In wouldn't go but that's because I can't be arsed with flaky "friends"! We're either real friends, through good and bad, or we're "occassional friends" - you know, the type you quite like and would have a laugh with when you see them but don't make much effort to see/vice versa. I would always make an effort for my real friends but can't be arsed with the occassional ones, which it sounds like this woman is to you.

So true LisaD1. I wonder why she is having more than one hen night. I was clearly deficient when I got married. One was enough for me.

So true LisaD1 if it was one of my friends that I have made through the toddler groups who are all fantastic, I would be happy to pay out money and know I was going to have a bad day. Plus I know that there would be someone who would be willing to leave a bit earlier with me when I got really tired and wouldn't leave me to go off on my own. I don't see this happening with this occassional friend, which is what she is.