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Sexually explicit language from a 2/3 year old boy

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boogiewoogie · 10/05/2010 21:04

Okay so here is the anecdote.

I was walking towards the train station from work through a road where it is known to be quite rough. Outside one of the houses stood a little boy about 2-3 years of age, behind him stood his mother/ aunt or other grown up female relation and opposite him were two men of about 30+ years of age. As I walked passed them the little boy grinned at me and said "get your tits out". I walked on but was by his usage of this phrase. He repeated it louder after I had walked a good few yards.

I am no prude but generally find this phrase distasteful at any age but from a 2/3 year old? What's more, the adults around him all burst into fits of giggles. Why? I can't help but believe that he was made to say it for a laugh. I don't judge the little boy, it's these grown ups who not only didn't tell him off but laughed with him!

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cananybodyhelp · 10/05/2010 21:06

YANBU - what a bunch of vile morons and poor little boy

Ripeberry · 10/05/2010 21:06

What a charming familly . Poor little boy, what hope for him in such a pit?

wukter · 10/05/2010 21:08

Poor little boy.

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boogiewoogie · 10/05/2010 21:08

Yes, my thoughts exactly Ripeberry. If he thinks this is okay to treat strangers at such an age, I dread to think how he will treat women when he's older!

If you work in a nursery and heard a child say something like that, how would you handle it?

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thelittlebluepills · 10/05/2010 21:09

report to social services

AndieWalsh · 10/05/2010 21:10

Disgusting. Why would they put a small child up to using that sort of language and then laugh about it? Scumbags.

Tiredmumno1 · 10/05/2010 21:11

Thats bloody awful, i would have been mortified

SoupDragon · 10/05/2010 21:13

"If he thinks this is okay to treat strangers at such an age, I dread to think how he will treat women when he's older!"

He doesn't think it's OK. He's 3. I would bet he was simply repeating what the adults told him to say. That is also why they didn't tell him off.

None of which makes it right but it is the adults, not the boy who are at fault.

AnyFucker · 10/05/2010 21:15

I would report that, tbh

Sexualised language, even if the poor mite doesn't understand what he is saying, is a red flag for sexual abuse

tootyflooty · 10/05/2010 21:18

if you can remember where he lives I would definatly report it to ss. The poor kid is going to be a thug of tomorrow he doesn't stand a chance if that is the way he is bring brought up, some people are just not fit to have kids

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boogiewoogie · 10/05/2010 21:21

Soup I wasn't judging the boy. I am not in any way putting the blame on him. Perhaps I didn't word my op very well but if you are young and an adult tells you to do something then they are accepting it iyswim. I have already stated in my post that it is the adults that I am appalled at.

I have also pointed out that one of them may have made him say it which would explain the fits of giggles.

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"What's more, the adults around him all burst into fits of giggles. Why? I can't help but believe that he was made to say it for a laugh. I don't judge the little boy, it's these grown ups who not only didn't tell him off but laughed with him!"

I do get that the boy probably has no idea what it means either.

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boogiewoogie · 10/05/2010 21:22

Is it my place to say anything to SS though?

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oldandgreynow · 10/05/2010 21:25

Maybe he is being extended-breast fed and was feeling a bit peckish?

oldandgreynow · 10/05/2010 21:29

Seriously distasteful and rude though it is, on what grounds are you going to report him to social services?
.They are there to cope with ABUSE eg people who deliberately burn babiesand break their bones.Not just numpties with no sense of decorum.

pigletmania · 10/05/2010 21:30

I feel really no hope for this poor boy, dragged up rather than brought up come to mind. Really some people just do nto deserve children.

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boogiewoogie · 10/05/2010 21:32

oldandgrey your first post made me laugh. However I should probably make a note of which house he was standing outside the next time I walk past on the way to work.

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AnyFucker · 10/05/2010 21:33

look, reporting to SS may just add to a catalogue of stuff they already know about the family

and if it doesn't, and SS decide there is no problem to address, then so be it

they are the ones trained to know what needs taking seriously and what does not

sexualised language, like I said, may be only the tip of the iceberg

it can often go along with a whole load of other inappropriate stuff that I don't really want to get into here

Nancy66 · 10/05/2010 21:36

Poor kid.

I once had a bloke pull over in a car to ask me directions - normally I wouldn't approach a strange man's car but he had a little boy probably about 4 or 5 in the passenger seat so i felt reassured.

when i approached the car the man was masturbating.

There are some sick lowlife around.

rasputin · 10/05/2010 21:38

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zapostrophe · 10/05/2010 21:41

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oldandgreynow · 10/05/2010 21:41

See I think teaching a little child to say'I smell of piss' is a thousand times worse than a distasteful but basically laddish comment.It undermines his dignity

zapostrophe · 10/05/2010 21:56

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larks35 · 10/05/2010 21:57

It really sounds to me like he was "coached" into saying that. No 2/3 yr old understands that phrase but how awful is it that the "responsible" adults around him think it is funny to encourage him to say that sort of thing. Poor child, I can only imagine that his young life will be full of negative encounters, with strangers, carers, teachers, peers. Blimey, makes me realise why some of the teens I teach seem so resistent to showing any nice side to themselves. Very very

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