to expect more on my birthday?

[suecy]

I think I am a bit but I'm just feeling a bit overlooked. It's my birthday today.

Had flowers and bubbly from kids - card from DH - present hasn't yet arrived (it's a salt and pepper set fgs - I sent him the link from amazon last friday cos I knew he had got nothing, and they cocked up the next day delivery). So nothing to unwrap.

My mum's staying with us at the mo, so after a normal working day we go out for a meal early with kids - back in by 7.00. DH announces earlier he has to go over to a friends house later tonight 20 mins drive away to pick up something he needs for work tom. He's currently upstairs packing for a 5 day overseas jolly for his friend's 40th on weds, before he dissapears at 9pm to get this stuff, and he can't rush back cos 'I haven't seen him for ages'.

So I'm left watching tv with my mum.

AIBU to expect a bit more?

ps. kids have been lovely by the way but DD commented earlier that it doesn't really feel like it's anyone's birthday cos there's no cake (forgot) or presents to open.

pah
On my birthday I got a card from dd and not so dh.
THATS IT.

Nothing from sister, dad or any inlaws - pressie and card only from my mum

Horrible day (Sunday)

Adding insult to injury, dd and dh went out on saturday to get me a present and came home with new fleeces. each. but not one for me and not even a bar of chocolate.

SO you have had a great day!

Happy Birthday

Nip out, buy yourself a cake, stuff yourself with it whilst indulging on the bubbly - preferably whilst soaking in the bath.

YANBU

Happy Birthday Treat yourself next time you hit the shops.

Sounds spectacular in comparison to some of my birthdays. My birthday are breathtaking non events.

YANBU - tell DD to ask Daddy tomorrow morning why Mummy didn't get a birthday cake or presents. [evil]

happy birthday.

(be sure to 'forget' on his birthday too)

That's pants - can you either do some internet shopping NOW to buy yourself something lovely or arrange night out with a friend tomorrow whilst your mum babysits?

Oh, and go get cake!!!!

YANBU but if it makes you feel better, my own mother FORGOT my birthday this year!

Yes - I second what angel said - it's not too late. Go and get a cake now!! If nothing else it will make your DH feel bad . Happy Birthday

Happy birthday
YANBU
Tell dh you will be doing a re-run of your birthday the weekend after he gets back from his friends do. You demand will expect either a weekend away or presents to the financial equivalent. And a bloody cake.
It's too easy to blend into the background. Don't be a martyr, shout and be heard!

I was going to post on here today about my birthday too. You are not alone suecy.

My husband has decided tha next Thursday (my birthday) he is going with his dad and brother to watch the golf for the day.

I won't tell you what I said to him, lol!

I agree with the cake, bubbles, nice soak in the bath and then spending when you go out shopping next time. :-)

Happy Birthday. x

Definitely leave your mum watching the kids and nip out for cake, chocolate and other birthday party delights (mmm... party rings!). Don't forget a trashy magazine or two. Return home, soak in bath with magazines, then watch TV eating cake etc.

Be sure to buy some things your DH would like, then leave the wrappers/empties in a prominent location

YANBU

On my birthday this year I woke up to nothing DP told me in advance I wouldn't get anything 'so I wouldn't be disappointed' I saw my MIL, FIL, SIL, BIL, grandmother, brother, uncle, DD, neighbour and a friend over the course of the day and nobody got me anything. At all. I was already feeling fragile as it's only last month I lost my mother, so it was a really tough day regardless.

Some distant friends sent a really little but thoughtful gift in the post and I cried my eyes out on it I know that birthdays aren't about gifts but it feels really crap to be ignored.

Aaaargh! And my mother is watching BBC news 24 and ranting on about how cr*p Gordon sodding Brown is and the country's going to the dogs and we need Maggie back! I've snuk a bottle of wine into the dining room!!!!!

Normalitybites - I feel cack now for whinging. You poor poor thing. Don't want to say anything too bad about your DP cos I don;t know you, but that is BANG out of order from him and all his family. How horrible so soon after your loss, and on one of the 'firsts' we all have to get through after losing a parent - I remember how I felt the first birthday after I lost my dad.

I hope you were able to treat yourself instead.

People - don't direct any more sympathy to me - at least I'm able to spend the evening with my fairly irritating mother.

The first birthday dh and I were together, one of his mates killed himself the night before. As birthdays go, it wasn't much cop.

The next birthday, all dh could think about was the anniversary of his mate's death (except it was actually the day before, but my birthday was the day we found out), so that wasn't much cop.

The third year we had dd, and dh had barely spoken to me for over a year. I had lunch with my mum and brothers and dd who screamed her little head off all the way through (dh couldn't babysit as he had to sleep).

It went on pretty much like that. There was always an excuse.

DD is old enough now to want to celebrate my birthday herself, saves her pocketmoney and gets me things from charity shops as dh can't take her into the city.

So, you are not alone, but it is not good enough.

I finally kicked up a huge fuss and SULKED for the whole of my birthday about 5 years ago. Now dh remembers it (and I don't). For instance, today he told me my birthday was this week and what did I want to do, what did I want as a present etc. I hadn't realised it was so soon, so had to tell him I'd think about it. He then told me I should have a tea party on the lawn and invite X and Y, and perhaps Z. I sharply suggested he arrange the whole thing for me then. Mean of me but he's forgiven me. And I still don't know what I want.

Suecy - Happy Birthday sweetie and you are are a lovely person - you did deserve better - I think we all get a bit ignored after a few years -

Normality bies - you poor poor love - sending big hugs xxx

Don't feel cack Suecy, I even forgot to say Happy Birthday to you I hope your day improved anyway - every single person should be royalty for the day on their birthday in my honest opinion, bar severely extenuating circumstances! I love birthdays and I bought myself several somethings fancy