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little boys weeing in the park ...

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pamelat · 10/05/2010 17:03

Am not annoyed by this, more 'amused' in a kind of 'is that normal' way.

DD is 2. We were on the park with her yesterday.

Park was quiet. 3 little boys, aged about 6-8ish with a woman.

One little boy, about 6 says to her, "need to wee" she says that he doesnt. She turns her back and reads her newspaper.

The toilets are 100m away and quite nice ones

Boy proceeds to wee on the park on the grass.

Older boy laughs, about 8, and also wees on the grass

The woman ignores them!!! Now I know they are kids and I know I dont hve a 6 year old but surely she should have 1)taken them to toilet and 2) they could have gone themselves?!

DD was quite surprised ......

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weaselm4 · 10/05/2010 20:43

I felt a bit unsure the other day when I let my 4 year old DS wee by the trees at the park - we were far too far away from any toilets tho and I did have DD in a buggy.

Then I decided it was OK and not to care about what other people were thinking!

6 and 8 and near some toilets tho is a bit different, I think. However, I suffer from depression and dread to think what others are thinking about my parenting "skills" some days!

ChasingSquirrels · 10/05/2010 20:44

loving "his willy prefers the trees"

wonderingwondering · 10/05/2010 20:47

Not wanting to take your children out of the park, stick one into a buggy (no doubt protesting at missing the fun) trolling to the loo, manouevring your buggy and extra child(ren) in the possibly unsanitary public lavatories, potentially several times in the course of an afternoon, as opposed to allowing a quick discreet wee, by a young child, up a tree, is nothing to do with depression. It's common sense and necessary when you have more than one child with you.

tootyflooty · 10/05/2010 20:50

you think that's bad, years ago when my dc were toddlers we were in a park next to the leisure centre, ( so 100 yard walk max to proper loos) this toddler dropped his pants and S--t in the middle of the play area, watched by his father, the dad passed no comment and the child pulled his pants up and carried on with what he was doing. the other parents faces were an absolute picture as none of us could believe what we had just seen. There is no excuse for it. That's appalling parenting, a case of kids being dragged up and not brought up

bedlambeast · 10/05/2010 20:51

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LynetteScavo · 10/05/2010 20:53

I think the mum was ignoring them because she was

No way would I let boys of that age go to the loo by themselves.

I have a fear of our park loos ...they are newish, but I've never been in, and I'm told thyy stink. I tell 7yo DS to go into the bushes, and not take down his trousers, then pretend I'm not with him. Obviously I'd make my 11yo DS go to the loos, but would hover nervously outside shouting into him like a deranged woman.

LynetteScavo · 10/05/2010 20:54

I meant public loo in the park, obviously... I don't accompany them at every loo visit!

weaselm4 · 10/05/2010 20:55

Thank you wonderingwondering, you made me sound sensible! I thought I was probably OK on this occasion, but there are definitely other times when I probably look like I'm being lax (as the lady referred to in OP apparently did). Don't think I worded it that well.

mamasmissionimpossible · 10/05/2010 21:01

My ds (4) did a wee in a flower bed, in the park today. I didn't know (honestly)

mankyscotslass · 10/05/2010 21:14

MIL used to let eldest Manky (5 or 6) wee in the park on the way home from school. Our house is only 3 minutes further down the road.

He tried it with me twice, last time on a really cold frosty day. I told him his wee would freeze instantly and his willy would frozen stuck to it.

Obviously if he was really desperate then he would have to go behind a tree, as would dd, but they are older now and I would expect them to be able to hold it for a bit.

wonderingwondering · 10/05/2010 21:35

Isn't weeing in the woods all part of being a little boy? Obviously not on the swings/the grass in the open/the front door of Waitrose, but in bush in a park or field, or up a tree in the forest - isn't that all part of the great outdoors?

All this being revolted at little boys weeing outdoors is a bit odd, I think. I agree that in the open on the grass is a situation that requires the parent to explain. But no more than that.

faddle · 10/05/2010 21:39

No way would I allow an 8 year old or younger to go to a public toilet by themselves. But I would def. expect him to take smaller boy and show him how to do it "properly" ie, find an appropriately secluded tree and see how high up the trunk they can make their wee go.

Poledra · 10/05/2010 21:40

Well, I'm be a bit at them weeing on the grass in the middle of the park. I have 3 DDs, and 2 of them have weed behind bushes/trees in the park (it's a 20 minute walk home) but not in the middle of the play area!

mumbar · 10/05/2010 21:47

Last summer on the beach with friend and dc's we did a loo trip (5mins). 2 minutes after getting back DS 5 says he needs to go!

I did the old 'no you don't' I told him to go in the sea and i'd take him in a bit. Off he ran to waters edge - took what I said literally - got it out and went Learnt my lesson there!

Francagoestohollywood · 10/05/2010 21:49

Fact: little boys love to pee en plain air.

shockers · 10/05/2010 22:00

That's why parks have bushes!

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