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AIBU?

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having no sympathy for my MIL?

34 replies

NewBirdOnTheBlock · 10/05/2010 14:53

Ok, so we get on, have no problem with her at all, shes funny, kind, would do anything for anyone etc. but likes a drink. She has been told repeatedly what a twat she makes of herself when shes had a few. Shouting, getting everybodys names wrong, teeth fall out, falls over a lot.

So last night, me and dh were going to our favourite restaurant. One we go to at least once a fortnight, they know us, take our little girl to entertain her when she's being a pain and we are trying to eat, give us free drinks etc.
So, MIL comes rolling in with half of the outlaws, makes a big table with ours and theirs and proceed to order £50 bottles of champagne all night. 10 bottles later, she couldn't stand up or talk and was getting really loud and obnoxious, telling the staff they are rude and the service was hocking (it wasn't) and I left almost in tears, I am pg and emotional btw.
I appologised on the way out to the owner who was lovely about it and said they would not serve them anymore alcohol and not to worry, he knows it is not my fault.

So, I have just seen the owner in the village who says MIL slipped on a discarded strawberry (mine [oops] ) and got blue lighted to hospital. I told dh who rang her to see what happened. She has broken several bones (along with the tiles on the floor) and cannot go on holiday tomorrow as she is in a cast and the airline wont carry her.

I am finding it very hard to feel any sympathy towards her. She ruined my night, I can never return to the restaurant after the twat she made of herself and we now have to put up with her for the next 6 weeks til she can bugger off abroad. dp thinks im cruel and unsympathetical and if it was my mum bla bla bla. I think it was self inflicted and her comeuppance and hope it teaches her a lesson.

Am I really cruel

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MadamDeathstare · 10/05/2010 16:59

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runnybottom · 10/05/2010 18:52

Are you for real? For whatever reason, your husbands mother is quite badly injured, in pain, missing a holiday, not to mention a drink problem....and your main concern is what the staff at your favourite restaurant may think of you?

If this is not a joke then not only are YBVVU, you are also a cold hearted wagon. You need a lesson, in human sympathy and the meaning of family.
FFS.

2old4thislark · 10/05/2010 19:02

I am 45 and have witnessed my mother's drinking my entire life and it's horrible. I have some horrendous stories (like cloming home as a teenage and there's knife marks in the door where she had gone for my dad)

I have zero sympathy for anyone who injures themselves when pissed.

Trouble is few people seem to recognise they have a problem and want to do anything about it.

AnyFucker · 10/05/2010 19:10

I would go back to that restaurant with my head held high, tbh

Don't you know that particular incident will give them something to dine out on for years ?

Your money is not tainted now, ya know and restaurant owners are only interested in your money, not in being your (real) friend

It also sounds like your MIL has a problem with alcohol, however

Is this the elephant in the room that Nobody Must Speak Of ??

2old4thislark · 10/05/2010 19:16

It would appear so AF. Though I have tackled my mum over the years in many different ways and it makes no long term difference.It's just wasted words. Popped by hers at 2.00pm last week, glass of whisky on the side........

AnyFucker · 10/05/2010 19:21

eh ? are you the original poster, 2old ?

and are we talking about your mum, or your MIL ?

mumbar · 10/05/2010 20:00

sprkletastic lol!!!

YANBU but if this spurs her to give up the drink then please forgive, forget and support her.

2old4thislark · 10/05/2010 20:22

was just making the point that I have long personal experience of a drunk in the family..not fun and not a lot you can do about it.

AnyFucker · 10/05/2010 20:32

oh sorry, 2old, my brains are a bit scrambled today

I thought you had outed a namechange for a moment there

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