.. to be looking forward to a few days without DH??

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DH has gone off on a work trip this morning just for a few days. He goes away quite a bit, never for very long and sometimes - and this is what I feel a bit guilty about - I just quite like the prospect of it just being me and DC's for 2 or 3 days. I can go to bed when I like, watch what I like (!) and I tend to sleep better etc. DC's and I don't tend to fall out when it is just us, and as much as we all love DH, he can be quite grumpy when he gets home from work etc. (He conveniently forgets that I too have been "working" when he asks a DC to give him a minute because "Daddy has been at work all day and needs to unwind" etc...)

AIBU?? How do I stop feeling guilty, or should I feel guilty and am being selfish?

YNBU my dh used to go away a lot with his last job and in this new one he doesnt at all and Im missing it I had got used to my own little routines and how i got around it all and now suddenly its no longet there..

Just dont get to a point where you prefere him not to be there at all

YANBU at all! DH irritatingly used to travel lots when the dc were little and I could really have done with him for bedtime routine. Now they are 11 and 9, quite independent, and he hardly travels at all. I love when he goes away for all the reasons you have mentioned, the house seems to get much less messy as well!

love love love it when I get the odd night or two to myself.

Abandon the guilt and ENJOY!!!!

Absolutely- I relish the odd occasions dh is away.
Everything's more relaxed- I often go to bed before the children do and they come and tuck me in!!

No need to feel guilty at all IMO! DH has just gone away for a few days (he also travels quite a lot, although is never usually away for more than 2-3 days) and while I was slightly annoyed that he had to leave on a Sunday (and it was Mother's Day here too...) I'm now looking forward to the prospect of a couple of evenings to myself. Plus I usually manage to get the DC to bed slightly earlier when DH is away; he always seems to come home just when they're ready for bed and they get much more lively as soon as he walks through the door.

So you are definitely NBU - enjoy!

Dh is away a lot & on Saturday is going to Japan for 8 days.

I do miss him when he's away but am secretly a bit excited this time because I'm going to paint the hall, stairs and landing. Never paint when he's around, he always tells me to get someone in to do it but I enjoy it.

I love it too!

DH and I were once apart for almost a year as he was working away and I have to say, never has my life run more smoothly nor been so agreeable.

We may live under the same roof now, but I never miss him when he's away. So nice to be your own boss for a bit.

Mine away for two nights this week too which should complicate things but strangely doesn't. I think it's because I know I have to do everything while he's away and just get on with it whereas when he's here I'm often finding myself clearing up after him as well as the kids, having two sittings for breakfast and tea and having to creep around in the mornings when I get up but he stays in bed!

Mind you, the last time he went away was supposed to be just a couple of nights and turned into nearly a week when he got stuck overseas because of the ash cloud. That left me having to re-arrange weekend plans and dismantling furniture and stripping a bedroom on my own ready for the decorator to start Monday, so I wasn't best pleased! He's just off to Wales this time though so no excuse not to make it back.

My Hubby is (hopefully) going to Spain on thursday for a boys weekend, and I'm hoping the ash cloud doesnt stop him going, cos I lurve it when he's away a bit, peace, no one farting and snoring in bed, except me!
Me and the kids eat crap all weekend and just chill out, bliss...
I just hope the ash cloud doesn't halt flights!!!

YANBU, my DP doesnt do any of the annoying things that you mention i.e grumpy when he comes home etc, he's a dream to live with and I still dont mind the fact that he works away sometimes.

of course I miss him. But Im happy enough to pootle through my little life, spend some one on one time with DD and catch up with friends then when he gets back our relationship is all fresh again

Dont ask about when he's away for the weekend though because Im just a walking misery!

Oh, well, I don't feel so bad then.

The whole ash thing has delayed his transatlantic flight today though, so coming back in a few days could be difficult too!! Don't feel too sorry for him, if he is stuck, he is stuck in Barbados.
On company money

YANBU. I wish my DH would bugger off more tbh. The space is good for us both and I love being able to lie in the middle of the bed like a starfish

YANBU - I nearly posted on the same theme as my DH has been away on (a very rare) solo trip since Friday and back tomorrow and I have been loving it and also feel very guilty. I love DH dearly but have loved having evenings completely to myself once the DC have gone to bed, to MN and watch whatever I fancy on TV with glass of wine in hand - bliss

Kamer I'm with you in spirt tonight!!!!

that thread could be written by me, but without the guilt thing!

Yabu to feel guilty

DH is away for 6 days soon and I am looking forward to watching the Sopranos and doing the Dirty Dancing Workout DVD in peace.

Well, here I go, dc's in bed and quiet, although it is Monday I am having one (just one!) glass of wine, some easy supper and an early night. Bed by 9.30 and no washing up. Bliss....

feeimcgee - Sopranos is the ultimate "ME" television. Have seen every episode and would watch the whole thing again. Currently I can now catch up this week on CSI, Damages (oh yes!) and Mad Men....

Actually, now hoping the dust cloud postpones him by just an extra day, as I don't have time to watch all these in four evenings!

I do absolutely adore my DH, don't get me wrong, but the guilt is possibly fading following the overwhelming support from all you fantastic MNers!

YANBU at all. Savour every moment.
DH has been at home f/t for a few months so never seem to get the house to myself anymore. Miss the quiet more than his former salary tbh, I watch far less tv than him. Only thing I truly missed (apart from the cuddles) when he last went away was his cooking as he does most of it- I can but he actually enjoys it