to be upset that DH just called me a stupid woman?

[Pavlov]

we had an argument. AFAIAK he is in the wrong. He woke in a rubbish mood, took it out on me, even though i am not well today (cold/bug of some kind, feel like shit) and he knows it.

He got shitty about something rather minor, has taken it and run with it, being actually quite insulting. Like a dog with a bone, he is getting himself worked up, pushing me, testing me and when I snap he is then justified in his behaviour.

Anyway, I was in the kitchen and I said he needed to have a think about what it is he is really annoyed about as it is not the thing we are arguing about and I told him to get over himself

and he walked off and yelled as he walked away 'well apologise then you STUPID WOMAN' and tbh it sounds like he edited that as it came out of his mouth.

Now for some reason. I feel more insulted by this than any of the other stuff he has said. He said it with spite, And he knows i hate being called stupid.

AIBU to be so very upset with this that I am refusing to talk to him atm? I just want to leave the house.

haha! it was the depletion of nicotine! Well good on him for trying to quit but make sure he's on bended knee begging for forgiveness

He apologised!!! Unprompted.

But get this. He said 'I am sorry, you know, for calling you a stupid cow' AHA! So, that was what you paused for! I told him I knew he had been thinking something other than woman, and was torn between whether this was 'cow' or 'bitch' and that he was very very lucky he did not actually say either of those words. He blushed said 'well, anyway, I did not say that so, anyway, er, yes, I am apologising anyway' .

Well, I'd count that as a result!! He's apologised and he was nicotine-deprived.

I can find it in my heart to have a leetle sympathy for him now.....

poledra i did consider being offended for the 'stupid cow', but felt, on balance, i should take what can get . And he did squirm when he realised his slip of the tongue. A Lot.