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AIBU?

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To feel cross with my dh for buying a Chelsea season ticket?

12 replies

MrsJellicle · 08/05/2010 14:24

I just feel irritated at the number of weekends which will have to be organised around him disappearing for the afternoon to go to the footy with his friend, whilst I look after the dcs, get tea ready etc.

But at the same time I think he should be entitled to have break and relax at the weekend, doing something he likes. Also, i hate being cast in the role of the nasty nagging wife telling him he can't do what he wants.

What do you think?

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gingernutlover · 08/05/2010 14:25

did he discuss the fact you would be caring for the children on your own? I would be irritated too, if dh just assumed I would be there while he went off on jollies.

harleyd · 08/05/2010 14:27

yab totally unreasonable
come on chelsea!

ChippingIn · 08/05/2010 14:30

Having been in a relationship with an avid football fan, I feel YANBU - I never realised just how many games one team plays, then there's the local team that needs support and the sunday old timers that need the extra player and it's about 45 weeks of the sodding year!

Don't get me wrong, I love watching sport and I love supporting a team - but buying a season ticket is something which NEEDS discussing first - as the time and in many cases the money, affects the whole family!

SweetnessAndShite · 08/05/2010 14:31

Why just for him and not for all of you??!

HatetheGym · 08/05/2010 14:36

My dh has a Chelsea season ticket too, has done for years, but the compromise is that someone else uses it a lot of the time, so he doesn't go to every single match. Perhaps you could suggest a similar arrangement to your dh?

ChippingIn · 08/05/2010 14:38

sweetnessandshite - you obviously have no idea how much a season ticket costs and it may not be MrsJ's idea of a good way to spend the weekend?? (esp not with small kids in tow).

Hatethegym- can you still do that? I thought you had to show ID now? If not it's a good idea to get a shared ticket - keeps two wives a bit happier

HatetheGym · 08/05/2010 14:40

No, no ID necessary. My family have loads of season tickets and they are forever being shared around.

thesecondcoming · 08/05/2010 14:41

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Trafficcone · 08/05/2010 14:41

YANBU. Chelsea are pure shite.

nickelbabe · 08/05/2010 14:47

YANBU.

but then that's because I have a loyalty to my own team.

but they're shite, and it's not fair that chelsea seem to win everything.
[grumble grumble grumble]

(DF is a chelsea fan. where do you go once you've won the premier? nowhere, that's where. at least my team have goen up a division.)

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MrsJellicle · 08/05/2010 15:05

Thanks for all your thoughts. In fairness, I don't think he will go to every single game (and there are plenty of people around who would be happy to buy the ticket from him) and he will also take our DS with him from time to time.

He did sort of discuss it, but we were quickly into 'can't believe you're not delighted for me to have this opportunity' (it's quite hard to get a Chelsea season ticket).

He does encourage me to do my own thing, but at the weekends, although it sounds a bit pathetic, i would honestly rather do family things than go off on my own.

I do think however that it woudl be interesting to see his reaction if i bought in advance a theatre ticket just for myself, for a matinee every other saturday afternoon - for a year!!

It's not really a huge problem - I just wanted a bit of a rant!

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bridewolf · 08/05/2010 15:55

i do get totally pissed off with my hubbys sporting life.

before he got married he did mention that he would ALWAYS need his arsenal season ticket.
and at the time, without kids, and also enjoying some weekend time doing my own thing, didnt think it a problem.

however, the years have gone by, and he has kept from me the cost of the whole bloody thing, and i spent a good deal of our first sons pre-school years on my own. mainly because of his part time open uni studies and his football.

then fast forward to 4 kids, and the cricket came in, playing for two teams, and the footy. so weekends are , now with older kids/teens , pretty busy.

over the last few years have had many part time jobs to make extra money, and in the end run my health to the ground, although i do love my part time work, i did resent feeling the presure to bring some extra cash in.
often i gave it up, and told him i wanted to be a stay at home mum, and did.

i do appreciate that he has a high presure job, and has the main responsibility for a large family, and needs some form of me time.

so, with two part time jobs, i dont feel guilty for buying my books and the odd outfit from mattalan, asda etc, or at christmas running to monsoon with his credit card. because no matter how skint we are he will spend a thousand quid plus on his hobby a season.

also, am going to go back and do my degree, so he can now support me more.
what goes around comes around..........

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