my younger sister works full time and my mum looks after my 20 month old nephew. I try and help out as much as I can and take him to play group once a week for a couple of hours. I have two children 6 and 7 and I'm 6 months pregnant with no3. Mum is going away in September for 2 weeks with friends and it'll be the first holiday she's had in nearly 2 years.
Yesterday my mum told me that sister had tried to book two weeks off work but couldn't take the first week off. Her husband works shifts so could look after his son most of the week but needs to request 4 days holiday from work, somrthing which has never been a problem before. Mum was hinting for me to look after the baby but I have made it clear since finding out I was pregnant that I can't look after him.
Today mum told me BIL had applied for a new job and so could have problems taking holidays and sister had considered putting him in a nursery for the four days. I didn't pass comment then mum said to me "you'd only have to mind him for 4 days". I tried to explain again that I will have a newborn plus a 6 and 7 year old to look after. She said nephew was a good baby and easy to look after, he is good but he'll be 2 and all 2 years olds are hard work !!! Also I may have a c section with this baby and so would only just be getting back to normal. My DH is adamant that I shouldn't do it. He too adores my nephew and spends a lot of time with him but is using his holidays to take time off with me and our children once this baby is born, mum had suggested he coulod take time off work to help me look after nephew.
I'm feeling guilty about not being able to help, had I not been pregnant I would gladly have looked after him. I know this isn't going to go away and I'm worried could turn into a family argument.
So please tell me am I being unreasonable ????
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