DS and his school - again.
Twice this week he's been sent home from school with bumped head letters (which, from working in a school, I know is no big deal) but both times he says it's because another child (his best friend) has pushed him and he's hit his head. Now I know they are boys and play rough but DH is telling him to push him back - This is because he was really crying this morning, not wanting to go to school because this child kept hitting him and not saying sorry. Obviously they are friends and it can't be bothering him too much.
But my problem is this - a few weeks ago I got called into school to speak with the teacher to reinforce the kind hands ethic that they instill at school (which we always had previously) the whole business got blown way out of proportion and we ended up seeing the head teacher - I asked if both children's parents who had been involved in this particular incident had been spoken to (ie us and the other child's) we were assured that the other parents had been spoken to - so far enough you think. However, I am on speaking terms with the other boys mother and she hadn't been told anything about any of it. So the head teacher lied! (good role model there - bullshit, as long as people hear what they want to hear!)
I am considering writing a letter because this other child isn't being talked to about his aggressive behaviour, the parents aren't aware of it and with DH telling DS to retaliate I have a feeling that my DS will be seen retaliating and get into trouble which we will then get called into school about. I don't want to child to be bollocked I just want some equality with this kind of thing.
I have considered texting the child's mother and casually mentioning it but we're only aquaintances and I don't feel it's my place.
I see everyday certain children in the school i work at being blamed for things they didn't do because they are easy targets as they are labeled as trouble makers. One so much so his mum's taking him out of the school.
Please help. Should I write to the head and demand a reply, or speak casually to the other mother or just leave it?
Listening to your child cry everyday because he doesn't want to go to school is heartbreaking especially at 4. As a child I never 'grassed' on my so called friends when they did horrible things to me because i didn't want them getting in trouble, just so they had the opportunity to shit on me later. I don't want my DS developing the unfounded loyalty I had as a kid.