to want to be alone with my thoughts?

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My DP keeps asking me whats wrong,are you ok,tell me what your thinking.

i say nothing, im fine i just want to think.

why do i have to vocalise every thought that goes through my head?

i can be a bit deep sometimes and go into my shell, but surely everyone has days when they'd rather not talk?

so tell me ambu to want to be alone with my own thoughts without my DP asking lost of question?

I think most people like to share their thoughts and opinions quite a bit, quite a lot of the time(if they didn't places like this, MN, wouldn't be very successful would they?) and find it weird when others don't want to express. They assume that something is wrong, something is bothering you, you're sulking.

I can be quite a private person sometimes, I don't feel the need to express my opinion on everything and require validation from others about what I'm thinking. Often I like my opinion, agree with it and am not interested in what other people might have to say about it!

So, in other much shorter, less rambly words, YANBU. If you have nothing to say stay quiet

'Tell me what you're thinking'

OK then - I'm annoyed that I have to go and buy some new... because my old ones are getting a bit worn. Oh and that the milk at the shop all had short Use By Dates so I couldn't get enough to last the week so I have to go shopping AGAIN, and the chicken was just awful in the shops so I couldn't follow the week's meal plan, and the mail man made such a racket when he delivered the post that it it scared the c* out of me. Oh and I saw the latest ad for ..... and it really is rubbish, isn't it. Oh and I was also wondering whether you might want to try some salsa dancing with me on Tuesday, I know you don't really like dancing but I wouuld really enjoy it. But then maybe I'd be too tired on Wednesday for .... that I have one.. Etc, etc, etc, etc.

Give him about 10 minutes of that and I guarantee he won't ask you what you're thinking for a VERY, VERY LONG TIME!!!!!

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I don't think you're being UR as everyone is entitled to their own private, me time, but maybe it depends on how often you go 'in to your shell' - like every hour/day? or once a week/fortnight/month - do you cut off from him?

Maybe he's trying to get you to talk 'cos you seem distant to him at times and he doesn't know why. Maybe he's a bit insecure and gets unsettled by your silence?

Just some thoughts of mine..

I say go for chitchats idea.