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To be fuming that school didn't inform me my 5 year old ds was pushed off the climbing frame and has huge lump on the back of his head!!!

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CharlieBoo · 06/05/2010 18:58

Soooo mad. My mum picked my ds up from school today and as on the way home he told her he was pushed off the climbing frame and his head hurt. Mum felt his head and had a huge lump there. Teacher didn't mention anything. My ds is fine but nipped him up to drs and dr was more concerned about not knowing how far he fell. Ds said he told teacher but she didn't say or do anything. Am quite cross at this, and think I'm going to have big words tomorrow. Am I over reacting??

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Tiredmumno1 · 06/05/2010 19:03

No you are not over reacting that is terrible. and yes you do need to have strong words

rainbowinthesky · 06/05/2010 19:04

I would wait until you speak to the teacher before assuming he did tell her and if he did that she heard him.

PixieOnaBallotBox · 06/05/2010 19:06

I would wait until you speak to the teacher - although I'm not saying that he's lied to you, children sometimes don't realise that they're telling the teacher when they're involved in another conversation or whether he's come inside after playtime and said 'I fell off the climbing frame but I'm OK'.

Don't go storming in to have 'big words' until you know the full story.

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CharlieBoo · 06/05/2010 19:08

Yes I agree, I am more mad that he could have this type of accident and no-one notice. He was also telling me him and his friend were jumping off the climbing frame while the other laid on the floor and landed on each other. How on earth can this kind of carry on go unnoticed by a dinner lady!! They are 4 and 5 year olds!!! Grrrr

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seeker · 06/05/2010 19:09

Never- and this is the voice of experience speaking- never take at face value anything a child tells you about what happens at school! Going in all guns blazing can leave you with egg on your face- so to speak!

Cretaceous · 06/05/2010 19:11

Did he have a note in his bag? There may have been an accident report note, but somehow it didn't reach you.

YANBU now, but tomorrow you might be towards the teacher

I remember doing dangerous things at school - you just wait until the dinner lady is looking the other way...

Hulababy · 06/05/2010 19:11

Can easily happen at a busy playtime or lunch break. At our school there would be 270 children out playing with 4 or 5 staff members at most. We can't see everyone all the time.

Ceck that teacher or an adut definitely dd know he had fallen and hit his head.

It is unusually for a head injury not to be recorded and then the child coming home with either a "head bump" sticker or letter for parents.

Obviously IF the teacher was aware and your DS had clearly told a teacher that he had hit his head, then yes it is a concern that you were not told. And you would need to comment to the teacher regarding this and that it is a potential dangerous situation.

However, before you do that - ask the teacher about it first.

Rebeccaruby · 06/05/2010 19:34

It could be that he started crying, ran over to the teacher for comfort, s/he asked what was wrong, he said "I fell"/ "big bruise"/ "I did a bump"/ "got pushed off". Teacher cuddles him for a bit, he calms down.

At no point has he said "I fell from a height onto my head from the climbing frame, you won't notice a bump yet, but one will come up in a couple of hours, perhaps I should be assessed for a head injury."

The fact that he said he told the teacher, rather than that he said "the teacher came over" reveals that the teaching staff probably didn't see the incident. They can't have eyes in the back of their heads, but if they had seen it, they wouldn't have needed to be told, they would have gone straight over. This means they probably didn't realise what had happened. They probably comfort several crying kids in the playground each day, and most times they are crying for trivial reasons.

Hope the little guy is fine, by the way

MrsGravy · 06/05/2010 19:45

Agree with the others - wait and get the teacher's perspective first. I don't think it's that terrible that nobody saw, I wouldn't expect 5 yos to be very closely monitored in an enclosed school yard. The school would probably appreciate being told that the kids aren't playing sensibly on the climbing frame so definitely mention it.

CybilLiberty · 06/05/2010 19:46

agree with hulababy...it is impossible to see everyting that happens in the playground as much as we would like to. Also a busy teacher herding 30 small children into a classroom will perhaps miss it too. She will be mortified when you tell her

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CharlieBoo · 06/05/2010 19:53

Well it's a massive bump and he would have been crying a lot so how it's possible for an adult supervising small children on a big climbing frame to miss that is beyond me tbh. Will see what they say tomorrow. Thanks

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Hulababy · 06/05/2010 20:32

Obviously if he was crying a lot then yes, it should have been noticed. Does he say he was crying at the time?

But you say he told a teacher anyway - was he crying then? Did he tell the teacher he had fallen and hit his Head? I ask this as often children come up and tell us they have fallen, but don't say where/how, etc. even when questioned they can be very very vague. We have a first aid area where children are sent after injuries to be checked out. head notes are sent up with the child to be put into book bags for parents.

Hulababy · 06/05/2010 20:34

Charlieboo - I o playtime duty at school. believe me, it is easy to miss individual incidents whe you are supervising 270 pupils all playing in a big playground. Even with 4 members of staff out there, it is impossible to see them all all the time. We have to rely on children telling us aout incidients. We do try our best, but only have the one set of eyes and ears each.

Cretaceous · 06/05/2010 21:11

I don't think you can equate the size of the bump with how much the child cried. My DS bumped his head (under my supervision!). Didn't cry much at the time, but it came up as a huge egg-shaped bump on his forehead shortly afterwards.

RubyBuckleberry · 06/05/2010 21:13

talk to the teacher of course. i would at least ask to be informed next time they have to inform you of any head injury - it doesn't matter how small.

outnumbered2to1 · 06/05/2010 21:16

nope! My DS1 fell and hit his face of the edge of a metal door breaking his nose in the process and his school didn't bother to inform me EVEN THOUGH I WAS IN THE BUIDLING WHEN IT HAPPENED.

they only excuse they could give me was that my DS (who is only 6) said he was fine....

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CharlieBoo · 06/05/2010 21:25

I agree I just think to let 4 and 5 year olds on a climbing frame when they are clearly not supervised is madness!! He said he cried, he said he told the teacher when he got in not the dinner lady. I renember when we went for his induction and the head banged on about how we are trusting them with our child and they will be safe in the school. Well if i had a large climbing frame in my garden and a bunch of 4 and 5 year olds playing on it I'd be making sure they were behaving appropriately on it. Maybe I have too high standards of the people who are looking after my child!!!!!

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seeker · 06/05/2010 23:54

"Maybe I have too high standards of the people who are looking after my child!!!!!"

claw3 · 07/05/2010 00:07

If he told the teacher that he fell off the climbing frame and hurt his head, YANBU.

But perhaps he just said that he fell off the climbing frame and didnt mention that he hit his head.

I doubt if teachers would check every child for injuries every time they fell over and would probably just ask if they were ok.

moondog · 07/05/2010 00:08

Oh FGS

rainbowinthesky · 07/05/2010 06:48

Oh god, I hope that madness doesnt takeover and our children are no longer allowed on climbing frames without ad adult havign to be on constant duty because of parental hysteria.

gtamom · 07/05/2010 06:58

I'd be fuming! There should be an adult watching that climbing frame. Or else they should not have it.Not sure about what he did say to the teacher, so not sure if I'd be mad about not being called. But I would be really mad that nobody is watching children on high climbers.

seeker · 07/05/2010 07:14

How high is this climbing frame? I would be amazed if reception children have a "high climbing frame" in their playground.

I hate that adults are being accused of negligence in the word of a 5 year old some hours after the event.

Go and find out what happened. Then decide how to react.

Pozzled · 07/05/2010 07:20

Agree with RebeccaRuby- I think the scenario she describes is the most likely.

thesecondcoming · 07/05/2010 08:15

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