Just had row with dp who is bu

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Yesterday got to school and my ds said he was ill which is unlike him so we went to the tescos nearby for breakfast.

Today my mum sat her exam so I had to look after my little sis when my mum got out she was starving and asked to take me to lunch she paid and picked her favorite restaurant which happens to be dp fave too.

Dp has found out I went and has started shouting because we don't get to eat out much and I told him he was being childish and ridiculous as my mum paid he said yeah but now he cant eat because I am not.

We had the same argument a week ago I am unable to work because we have no one to take care of the kids and are unable to afford childcare. So when we accidentally got pg with ds I offered and he agreed to put my career on hold. Now having two kids and being stuck in I have no friends I wanted to go to a club the only one available was kickboxing while ds was in school and my mum could look after dd. which dp has always wanted to do so he said I was being unfair I offered him to go in the evening but he wants me to wait until one comes up in the evenings and go with him.

Is dp behaving like a teenager in a strop or aibu.

Because when I snacked he was apparently starving and also snacked meaning his waistline grew.

I have asked him he said he doesn't want to do anything he just wanted me and him to do something together without the kids and that is why he got upset over the kickboxing.

ok well would your mum agree to babysit once a month or something so you and dp could do something together?

Yeah my mum would be happy to help I guess we just better start thinking of a activity we can do together.

Really it must be hard on him because he lost all his friends too we had to move for dp job. He doesn't go out drinking or anything just works and comes home really.

it doesn't need to even be a set thing i don't think. i mean obv you could do a class or something, but you could equally just do whatever takes your fancy... cinema, restaurant, a nice walk on a summers eve and a drink in the pub...

think the key is just to spend some time together without the kids

I think you are definitely right we both love the cinema but usually take one or both dc so perhaps we will go and see a adult film now I think back we haven't been without the kids together for 4 years .

def think it sounds like you need to sort out some 'adult time' for both/each of you. we have no parental support so i know what it's like, and dh gets fed up as he works long hours, but i cannot work at all as i'm on an immigration visa. can you do him something to cheer him up? then plan a way to give yourselves a bit of time?

is there a local sports centre that runs a creche? then the two of you do something together - dh & i did badminton a few times.