to be feeling a bit... empty?

[Psammead]

MIL phoned half an hour ago and said she had a little time on her hands and would love to go out with DD (3 months) with the pram.

Lovely, thought I, and got myself and DD ready for a nice walk. MIL knocks on the door, says hello and wheels the pram outside. She looks at my shoes and coat and asks (in genuinely friendly and curious way) 'and where are you going?'

Obviously at this point I realise that she meant she wants to take DD out ALONE (probably wants to show her off to her friends, which she is welcome to do!). I feel like a fool and mutter that I need to go to the shop. She says that she'll walk us up there so then I had to go in and buy some chocolate essentials.

Now I am home alone and I miss my baby. It's not the first time ever that I've been without her, but all the other times it was planned and had more than 20 seconds to get used to the idea. I didn't even say goodbye properly.

Please give me biscuits, I am being a total idiot. Normally I would have no problem with this (me and MIL get on like a house on fire) but it was so SUDDEN.

[pout emoticon]

Aww. Here, have a . In a nice way, not a 'no comment' way. Cheer up and find something fun to do.

Aww, bless you! you aren't being a total idiot at all! Give your hormones a kick up the bum and tell 'em to back off and let your head deal with this one.

Then kick back and relax with the chocolate and some book or other (Or you can stay on MN in luxurious solitude)

My DD2's 4 months old and I really don't like anyone else taking her out, even her Dad

I think it's because she's with me all the time, if I want to check she's OK then I just look at her. I don't fret and fret if she does go for a walk with DH, but like you say, it makes you feel really empty.

You spend all your time looking after them and checking in your head what you should be doing for them re nappy/feeding/bathing, that when you don't have to for a little while it's just so weird.

To me it shows you're totally bonded to your baby and enjoying her

Paint your toenails and read a mag,they will be back before you know it.

Its lovely that her nanna has taken her out and if there was ever a crisis then you know that even if unexpectedly you had to ask for help then your baby will be fine .

I once cut the end of my thumb of on a bottle of bud ....we had to leave a fairly young ds2 with a neighbour having never been away from me unexpectedly he howled for ages.

You should be sleeping

Bless you - now go and have a hot cup of tea and then a nap!

Understandable to feel that way, but don't worry though it wears off! It won't be long before you're skipping with glee at the thought of a bit of time to yourself

Now go and lie down!

Yes, she's my first. [pfb emoticon] I couldn't sleep! I never can in the day time.

PixieOnaLeaf yes, that might be it - she's a real gem and I am grateful that she's so thoughtful. It was obviously a case of misunderstanding on my part. It's just the suddenness!

Psammead - give yourself another year and you will be begging the MIL to come and give you 5 mins off!

It is much harder when you don't get your head around it first but really enjoy some time on your own, enjoy thinking about yourself and well stick the kettle on and enjoy the choccie. Bound to be some crapola on the telly too!

Oooh, I can see them coming up the road. Going to meet them.

Thanks everyone!

If it helps I'm feeling like my right arm has been hacked off today as 12mo DS (also PFB) is having his first proper long day at the CM before I'm back at work on Monday next week

I hadn't left him at all by 3 months so you are definitely NBU.

Thank god for chocolate is all I can say.