To NOT want to go to A&E because my baby fell down the stairs?

[bigboobymama]

My DD is 5 months old and fell from my arms when I slipped on the stairs yesterday. She feel from 3rd step onto her face. She cried for 10 minutes or so and then was fine. No sleepiness, no bruises. Fed as normal and is her normal self. I have two older boys 13 and 8 and know babies fall and it can be scary but I'm confident she is ok. She is my DH only daughter and he wants to go to hospital. This I feel wil be a waste of 4 hrs or so. Should I take her? Or talk him out of it? We already have issues in our marriage over her as he feels i'm too complacent about holding her and now this!

My little boy is 3 and fell on his face at nursery today (on to concrete). Looked similiar to the elephant man.

We went to GP surgery - didn't expect it to be anything other than a swelling on his forehead, it of course wasn't and we got the standard 'active children have these little falls from time to time - one of those things' chat. However he did examine him, and have a good look in his eyes.

He had fallen and had a bump in the same place over the weekend, so we had concerns about the repeated bump causing problems.

Had he been 5 months old, fallen from my arms, I couldn't have got there fast enough!

When my DS1 fell down a full flight of very steep stairs & landed on wood floor aged c.18mths despite I whisked him off to A&E even though he looked fine. They didn't a single tests & just went through a list of things to look out for over the following few days which (presumably) NHS Direct could quite easily have told me. I was quite surprised TBH & it would put me off going again for similar (not that I intend to let anymore children loose near the stairs )
Hope she's OK.
LCN

For all the right reasons, I hope your trip to A&E turns out to be a waste of time. Good luck.

I feel that you are being very unreasonable in your attitude- would 4 hours at a&e be a major inconvenience?
Doyou need to re-schedule your diary to fit the hospital visit in?

Makes me annoyed that you begrudge your daughter this care and attention when she needs it.
Plain selfish.
I really do hope she's ok and that your hesitation hasntcaused any harm.

YAB VERY U! I would be suspicious of someone who drops an infant in the manner in which you described, then makes excuses not to have them looked at by a doctor.

YABVU!
When my sister was a baby of about six months, my dad was carrying her in her bouncy chair, and dropped her half the way down a cast iron spiral staircase! She was fine, but they took her to be checked over anyway. Fractures can be invisible and painful for a baby who can't tell you about it. Take your baby to a and e definitely. You say you are using a mothers instinct, why can't dh use a fathers instinct? Being a mother doesn't automatically make you the better parent.
Imagine if you didn't take her when dh thought you should, and there was something wrong with her. Would you ever forgive yourself? Would he? If he dropped her, would you want him to hold her?
He is being perfectly reasonable. You are denying a child medical attention after an accident, wether or not she needs it. If it was an accident, what have you got to worry about from social services? children have accidents all the time.

DD is all ok. Nurse did ask why we waited and explained about NHS direct. Doctor first asked if we were worried about her behaviour- did she lose conciousness, was she sleepy, was there blood coming out of her ears, normal self, fedding well etc. There was no bump and she was alert and happy and laughing with doctor. He looked in her eyes and said for babies this small it mainly goes on parents instincts.. they said they couldn't xray every child who had a fall unless there was a clinical reason- there was not... he discharged us within 5-7 min. He said nearly everyone who calls NHS direct ends up at A&E even if they have a cold.
My advice wd be if worried take child to hospital immediately like I have done in past several times, but if not worried just observe talk to HV or GP.

RE fall I slipped onto my bum and baby fell out of my arms from my low position onto her face onto wooden floor boards.
Thanks for all the advice [smile

Glad DD is fine. Have you considered seeing an osteopath about your back? I have long term back niggles caused by what I thought was a harmless fall similar to yours many years ago.

I'm glad your DD is ok. Better to be safe than sorry when they fall. The way you explained just now, it sounds a lot "better" than what I imagined (that you dropped baby from 4-5 feet, as you tripped and lurched forward on the stairs).
Hope your back will be ok.

Yes better to be safe then sorry but tbh 24 hours after a fall, if I hadn't been to a&e when it happened, I would have just phoned the GP.