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To think this "course" is just a waste of time?

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Sorce · 04/05/2010 14:21

I've been doing a course since easter at college. It's just a little introduction course to the real one I start in september. I don't have to do it, but I was told it would "look good" on the application.

So basically out of 5 subjects I was to pick 3. Lets call them a, b and c.

A and B are fine but C is just ridiculous and a complete waste of time. On the very first lesson I turned up at 1pm for the starts of the class and was told "sorry, they wrote the wrong time on your card, that started at 9am this morning, you've missed it".

So, the 2nd week I turn up and was immediately placed in pairs with a girl who, by her own admission "just can't be arsed with it". We were to study together, gather info and create a presentation for the following week. Tis was going to be difficult anyway considering we only see each other in this one class but we compromised and said we would get to college 1 and a half hours early the following week and get it all done.

So muggings here turns up an hour and a half early and am sat there in the library on my own until the start of class. She didn't even show up. So I get to class, yet again with no work to present. I'm told "don't worry about it, just do it for next week."

So we arrange yet again to meet in the library 1 and a half hours early. I turn up. She doesn't. She later comes into college laughing and giggling with her friend who she'd just bumped into. Half heartedly apologised and just laughed it off.

So we get into class and are told "soz, tutor hasn't turned up, she's ill. You may as well go home and do it next week".

This is ridiculous imo. Not only have I wasted numerous hours on this, I've wasted 2 lots of bus fares which I really can't afford at the moment and the whole thing is just stressing me out. We've been there 4 weeks and have produced NO work. Despite the fact that in class A we have produced 3 full assignments and in class B we have produced 2.

Apart from all this, I have to leave this particular class half an hour early everytime anyway to pick DS up (as they gave me the wrong times, I didn't have chance to organise proper child-care from the start!)

I was told by the course organiser that I could "drop" one of the subjects if I wanted to and it would just mean that I didn't get the certificate. But it wouldn't effect septembers course.

DH will NOT approve because he doesn't give a shit about my feelings at all, all he cares about is the money after I qualify. When he starts AIBU to tell him firmly that I am an adult and will make my own decisions??

And AIBU for wanting to drop this waste of time subject from my course and forfeiting teh certificate?

OP posts:
ChippingIn · 04/05/2010 14:32

Why didn't you just do the assignment by yourself?

Don't drop one of the subjects and not get the certificate - just do what you have to do to get through it.

It's good prep for your 'proper' course...

If Dh doesn't give a shit about your feelings - then that's something you really need to get sorted out.

(Are you a namechanger - the one who wants to be a midwife?)

ilovecanada · 04/05/2010 14:33

Don't seek DH's approval, it has absoluetly nothing to do with him! tell him to keep his nose out.

AMumInScotland · 04/05/2010 14:34

Is there any option to switch to d or e? That might look better than just dropping 1/3 of the course and not getting the certificate for the course because of it. You might perhaps be able to do extra reading to catch up on one of the other subjects - it might depend how the course is marked whether you would get the credit for it.

I don't see that it has anything really to do with your DH unless he is funding you through this course - if this course is meant as an introduction to your "real" course in September, then it should be up to you (and the admissions people for the later course) what parts of it you do.

TulipsInTheSunshine · 04/05/2010 14:37

it has nothing at all to do with your DH so leave him out of the equation.

However i'd do the presentation by myself, hand it in and get the certificate if it were me....

compo · 04/05/2010 14:37

Complain to the college about the tutor

swap partners or do the project on your own

it will be very hard to study to be a midwife if your dh isn't supportive
he'll have to do all the childcare while you work shifts

Lucianne3 · 05/05/2010 14:55

As an ex student midwife, I want to echo Compo's warning... an unsupportive DH will make your midwifery studies (if that's what you're going to do) hell on earth. It's an incredibly intense and demanding course even with rock-solid support. Regarding your current course; do the assignment on your own and make sure they know you did so. Maybe try to change that element of your course, if that's not possible, then stick it out for the certificate - use tutor no-shows as time in the library for studying.

Best of luck.

LoveMyBigTV · 05/05/2010 14:59

Complain to the college about the tutor and wrong times. Complain about your partner not 'giving a shit' and tell your DH to fark off, Its not up to him what you do with your life

runnybottom · 05/05/2010 15:10

So you spent 3 hours in the library and did nothing?
Doesn't sound like you have either the attitude or the support for proper studying, tbh.

PrivetDancer · 05/05/2010 15:14

I agree with runnybottom - just do it yourself, don't whinge about other people causing you to fail it.

cory · 05/05/2010 15:58

Similar thing - partner not being arsed- happened to me at uni. I did the presentation on my own and tried not to mind about her getting a free ride. Twenty years later I'd have to say the degree is useful to have and I can't even remember what the useless woman looked like, so I wouldn't feel good if I was sitting here now thinking that i had let her attitude spoil a qualification I wanted.

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