to not like my birthday present??

[ungratefulcow]

a package just arrived for me, and it's my belated birthday present from my closest friends...who didn't ask my dh for advice on presents and instead asked someone else..
thing is...i've got two LOs (latest one is 6 wks) and, I sort of feel like there were plenty of other ideas or treats that would have delighted and surprised me...this one isn't insulting or unacceptable, in fact it shows some initiative because they wouldn't have chosen it themselves...but i just want to wail WHYYYYYY....

why did you choose something you don't like anyway
why didn't you ask dh
why give me a present that i do not have time to do with TWO SMALL CHILDREN.....

the timing is rubbish - one of said friends coming over today (and i'm awful at pretending)(and she knows it) and said advisor is also coming tomorrow (and she'll love the present which is why she suggested it ).

HELP. i hate being ungrateful. and i'd normally rant to these people about this so that leaves you guys!!

be gentle. I know IABabitU but i'm also post natal

YANBU to wish you'd gotten something more immediately useful, but it sounds like they made an effort to think of something you'd like, and it's not like books expire, so you'll get a chance to read them someday. I have an Uncle who has previously pointed out the flaws in presents we've bought him, and it was a bit upsetting, so I remind myself of that whenever someone gets me something I don't really like or need. Gift horse, mouth, etc )

Maybe they thought it would be nice to get you something adult as opposed to something baby-related? I know a few women who've complained that now they have a baby all their gifts seem to be baby or mum oriented.

And it's not like they got it completely wrong - the present is something you would have liked pre-DCs, and is probably something you will like in future... just not quite what you fancy right now.

Wow, I think you are quite an ungrateful friend. They obviously spent time and energy choosing them (and having fun doing so). You are definitely a bit post-natal...so I think your ingratitude is excusable though!

well, 27 hours on...and a lovely catch up with said friend...and I'm much more sane...
Thanks for comments and response - you are quite right, I shall read again and perhaps these can give me a good excuse to prop my feet up and get on with it! I also found out that said friends did do a lot of thinking about the present and were slightly stumped with what to get a hormonal PN person so I appreciate i'm perhaps not the easiest of people to buy stuff for!!
And would just like to point out that at no point have I expressed this ingratitude to anyone in RL and would hate to upset anyone.
Thanks for tip libra will scatter books liberally! If nothing else people will think i'm terribly literate

Ooh, glad you finally owned up to the whereabouts of this thread at last ungreatfulcow .

At least you know your limitations at the moment. - unlike me, who keeps buying more and more books, none of which are getting read. DH is getting seriously pissed off. My reasoning that they are handy as extra bedside tables is being met with a .

Oh god, can I blame being PN for stupid spelling mistake?????