to not want my friend to come here anymore and talk to her imaginary ghost friends??

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She is a lovely friend.

She has no mental health issues.

Her family are all member of various Spiritualist Org/Churches.

Her children are adorable too.

I find myself a bit irked by the time she has gone and I'm a bit jumpy.

She'll say things like "oooooh do you know a Robert, he knows you- he's here with us, behind you on the sofa"

If we're in the garden she'll look into the distance and say "Linda isn't unhappy anymore etc, etc, doe sthat mean anything to you?"

At first it was quite funny but my children are starting to ask odd questions and I find myself dreading her coming round. I feel the need to turn off all T.V.'s and pour holy salt everywhere.

Telling her I'm not interested has fallen on deaf ears.

Gosh, that's a strange one. No idea what to suggest but no, I don't think you're being unreasonable. It is quite funny though, to an outsider; probably not that funny to you, I'm sure

Try telling her again, a bit more bluntly? not just that your not interested but have you just said directly I would rather if you did not make these comments when you come around in future please, I am not comfortable with it?
YANBU to not like it, I wouldnt either it sounds weird

That would freak me out, I'd make sure you only socialise in public from now on.

Be very blunt and tell her to knock it off.

Tell her that it makes you very uncomfortable and wanting to avoid her visits.

It seems to me that this will either work and she'll be able to visit you without impersonating Derek Acorah, or she'll leave you alone. Win win.

She does it in public too and will pull funny faces if she doesn't like the aura of a place.

I made the mistake of doing this once, sort of. I am a spiritualist type myself and went out to lunch with two non-spiritualist friends. My dad in law (passed away) decided to 'accompany' me and I tried to act normal but I found it quite disturbing (it was early on in my development). So instead of repeating 'no honestly, I'm fine' I explained that my Fil had decided to join us etc. They were very nice to my face but heaven only knows what they thought of me at the time.

It wouldn't bother me in the least now, and I wouldn't dream of mentioning it to anyone else, just out of politeness and to save them the bother of wondering what medication I'm on.

Tell your friend that she is a) innaccurate and b) not being a very sensitive 'sensitive' - if people don't want to know, leave them be. And especially in front of children. They are far too young to deal with it.

Btw any old salt will do! HTH!

She should meet my 8 yr old ds. He told me yesterday that he knew how to invoke Satan. "You wait til midnight then look into the mirror and say three words from the Bible backwards" [sigh]

I have a neighbour who is similar (in addition to dead people she also sees fairies and angels), but once I'd said to her that it made me really uncomfortable she did stop. Each to their own - I don't criticise her beliefs but equally I don't share them. If she's a good friend otherwise then it's worth trying!

BTW - Holy Salt? Am genuinely interested as have only heard of Holy Water

YANBU

My BIL has been brainwashed was introduced to spiritualism by his wife, and was told he was touched has the gift. He keeps telling MIL stuff about FIL who died two years ago, and it really upsets her, yet he still insists on telling her these things. But it isn't helpful things, its things like "dad said you need to paint the living room ceiling" or "dad said he was stadning behind you yesterday when you were washing the dishes" .

We went out a few years ago, and he met one of my friends, who he kept telling had a lovely aura. My friend found it hilarious, I found it embarrassing.

If you've tried telling her to keep her daft delusions to herself pack it in and it hasn't worked, buy her a copy of this and tell her you found it surprisingly insightful.

Or just tell her that all mediums fall into one of three categories - con artists, headcases and well-meaning gullible twats, which sort does she see herself as?

I do not mind that she has these beliefs.

I have told her- she persists.

She babysat for me the other week and went to the bottom of the stairs and looked up and she menioned it was late for my dc to be awake- I told her they were all sound asleep and she pulled a startled face and said oh I thought they were your dc.

You're gonna have to suck it up and lay it on the line with her. Either she stops or you don't hang out anymore.

Oh no - that would really freak me out. Actually, seeing as you have explained to her your not comfortable its down right rude and disrespectable of her to continue.

She sounds like a pain in the arse to be honest and I dont blame you for not wanting to see her.

Definately not being unreasonable.

Bloody hell - live and let live I say (not that that is particularly appropriate under the circumstances ) - but I think I'd be looking for another babysitter!!

She is being disrepectful if you dont want to know about any spirits.

I would distance myself.

"Or just tell her that all mediums fall into one of three categories - con artists, headcases and well-meaning gullible twats" I disagree experience has taught me otherwise

Just spotted your name, OP

Must defend myself as not fitting into any of the three catergories...

OP I think you will have to get angry with her to be honest, either that or take the piss so that she stops mentioning stuff. After her 'I thought they were your children' comment I think I would have done the twilight zone music. Rude, ignorant woman, tbh it wouldn't surprise me if she were about as psychic as a bag of spanners.

She sounds like a right old attention seeker. I would sit her down and tell her very seriously that you want to to stop- or you won't be able to continue your friendship.

Seems odd that your house has all this spooky action - are you velma from scooby doo?

Nemo - are you psychic or more of a medium or bit of both (sorry for being so nosey!! but am always intriged with this sort of thing.. )

Tell her she is too open and needs to learn to close off from her "Gift" when she is around you/your children. If she said no tell her you will help her learn as she clearly has not got the hang of it yet.

It worked with my friend. She can't get out of it - if she said no she's not as good as she thinks or wants you to think (in this case make fun of her) and if she does them no more coments. So you win both ways

If you want to know how to close of the "gift" just ask me and i'm sure i can come up with something

Sorry for hijack, OP BarbieLovesKen - I am still at the start of my development really, at the moment I'm unable to get to a proper development circle so I am working on studying at home. It would seem that I lean more towards mediumship though, I have always had what they call a very good connection to spirit. I do divination, reiki (for the personal development aspect) I am working on healing my ishoos and staying 'grounded' - too much work on the old third eye chakra and you're likely to go loopy and turn into a space cadet.

Doris Stokes was a hero to my nan - a very Yorkshire type of medium. Have heard she was 'debunked' though. Divination and psychic stuff run in my family for the past 4 generations, if my dd goes the same way, that'll be five generations!

Tuesday - perhaps the DC could help make the lady a nice tinfoil hat?

SGB

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