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AIBU about this?

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cat88 · 03/05/2010 07:48

My DH is great with the kids and we were having a lovely weekend until this happened..

We had gone out for lunch and he was chatting with friends outside a shop I wanted to go into. I suggested i take DC1 in and leave them chatting and him looking after DC2 who was asleep in her buggy. He knew we were not going to be long - we knew what we were going to buy etc. Anyway he comes into the shop to say the friends are doing something else then coming back to ours. He drifts off to look at things and then comes back again whilst I am persuading DC1 to come and join me in the queue. I had assumed that our friends were taking DC2 or waiting outside with her and queried with him. He informs me that they've gone and he has left her outside the shop! I rush out - she is still there oblivious and demand he stay until we can pay for our stuff which i do 2 mins later. I cant believe he did that and say so - he storms off. I try talking to him on the way home but no good he does not think he did anything wrong!

OP posts:
SirBoobAlot · 03/05/2010 07:51

I'm sorry, but I think you were unreasonable to presume your friends were looking after your DC.

But yes, he was very unreasonable.

ChequeredFlag · 03/05/2010 08:03

SirBoob, seems reasonable to assume that given that the child was not with her DH and one would not normally just leave a child outside a shop, that the child would be with the friends - which she then queried with him.

Very odd to leave the child outside when he could just have pushed the buggy in, and even odder to get annoyed when you query him.

compo · 03/05/2010 08:06

People used to do that all the time though
maybe he could see her out of the shop window ?

wineismysaviour · 03/05/2010 08:37

I would have flipped.

Spatchadoodledo · 03/05/2010 08:38

Did he say why he thought it was ok to leave the buggy outside? could it be seen through the window?

rainbowinthesky · 03/05/2010 08:42

The chances of something happening whilst outside the shop alone for two minutes must be virtually non existent.

LittleSilver · 03/05/2010 08:45

YANBU

AmandaCooper · 03/05/2010 09:06

Don't agree with sirboobalot it seems reasonable to me to have assumed that your DH had made reasonable provision for the safe care of your DC - and that on that basis logically DC must be with the friends.

maduggar · 03/05/2010 09:10

I once left my DD in her buggy outside the school doors (well inside the school playground) for literally 2 mins and a pupil walked off with her!

diddl · 03/05/2010 09:17

YANBU.

I just don´t understand this at all.

I think it´s also the fact that he wandered around the shop as opposed to quickly tell you what was happening & then back to buggy.

Original poster
cat88 · 03/05/2010 09:29

i know it wasn't for long, i know we live in a lovely small town but even so you could not see the Dc2's buggy from inside the shop - too much in the window and also the shop was busy so if he had tried to push the buggy in the commotion would have been enough to alert me .. i just think it was an err of judgement and we should discuss it.

maduggar - OMG what did you do?

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pjmama · 03/05/2010 09:56

Good god what's wrong with the man?!!

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