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AIBU to ask someone to take off my pictures off their facebook page?

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avoidingironing · 02/05/2010 22:10

Someone has scanned in hundreds of old family photos, some of which are not flattering and some downright embarrasing. So I have requested that they remove pictures of me from their FB, as this is so easily seen by so many people that are her friends who I do not know.

AIBU to request that my photos be removed?

OP posts:
avoidingironing · 03/05/2010 16:55

BAFE - pictures of me as a naked toddler were definitely not taked by the person posting the photographs, as she is significantly younger than me! So the copyright is not hers!!!!! There were a number of photos being posted of many members of my family not just me, but I am happy now that they are off FB.

I asked her to remove all pictures that I am in.

She removed all the albums except a couple of the photos of just her children and her. Then de-friended my husband and I from FB, then posted on FB about how sad it was that her work was not appriciated and that she is now going to publish them on a "secure" blog site instead, and anyone wanting the address to contact her.

She said in an email that it is a shame that I don't share the same sentimentality of the photos, (which of cause I do), but clearly she does not see a problem of showing these photos on a public site to all her friends and whoever.

I have emailed back to say that I am sorry that she is upset with my request and that I hope that we do not fall out over this.

comments now on fb now are:

"XXX is deeply saddened that she has upset someone with her scan photos and apologises, but thinks its a sad old world when people cant reminisce over old pictures on FB"

Another person wrote
" im sorry that this is the case , i must say im always delighted to se old pics of our families especially our nearest and dearest that we lost so young even if i do shed a tear the first time i see some of them xxx"

XXX wrote "thanks for your support, ive really enjoyed sharing them with everyone and it really upset me that someone didnt share our view - they will be on a secure blog from now on and ill send out the address to those who want it."

reply was "put me top of your list XXX , hope your all well if your pics and comments are anything to go by your all doing wonderfully xx
and
" i find it really dissapointing in this day and age that if somone was bothere by a particular pic that they couldnt send you a message and politly ask if you would take it off "

Then a second person wrote:
"No more piccies I know I'm not in your family, but like looking anyway. "

This final comment actually makes my point as this person is a complete stranger to me, and I do not want strangers looking at embarrassing photos of me or my family.

I could agree with the first poster I could have trawled through the (literally) hundreds of photos myself and asked her for each photo to remove that individual photo, but she was was still scanning yet more and uploading more day by day.

I am not happy that the same photos are now going to be put on a blog site, but as least it is slightly more secure.

I wish she had not removed all the photos of her family at the same time as removing all the ones of my family, but I am pleased that she has at least removed the photos of me as I requested.

Thank you all to your support here.

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2shoes · 03/05/2010 16:58

yanbu
i made a mistake a put a photo of a friend on FB, she asked me nicely to remove it, I did staright away..........no probs

WorkingMotherNStudent · 03/05/2010 17:04

i would still tell her that she has no right to publish photos that you are in, on any website secure or not and that is down right rude of her to ever have the gall to say so after you have requested her to take them off of one website.

Dont let her get away with it. it is not her right to post them anywhere.

i would be fuming!!!

Jamieandhismagictorch · 03/05/2010 17:10

She sounds like a prima donna frankly. YANBU. This would really piss me off

scanty · 03/05/2010 21:08

must admit the whole snarky way of posting her messages to others concerning this issue and knowing you will probably see it is a bit childish and nasty. Luckily, I've never encountered this kind of nit picking, almost bullying on FB.

Lite · 03/05/2010 21:12

YANBU - this is one of my pet hates. Not sure where people get off sticking up photos of anyone they chose - for the whole world to see. Personally, I think Facebook should be blown up into cyberspace - never to return. Can people not email photos to their loved ones? I'll stop now - before this keyboard explodes from the pressure.

Lindy · 03/05/2010 21:16

This sort of thing makes me so glad that I have nothing to do with FB. Do you really, really want all your photos/comments etc on line???

oceryo · 03/05/2010 23:14

A picture can be tagged with your name even if you are not a member of Facebook.

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