to wish DH could be a bit more supportive over my haircut disaster?

[kitcat1977]

Gaaahhh! I've just had my long hair chopped off thinking it'd be more practical with our 9 week old DD and coloured darker to reduce the expense of highlighting. It's not great. Instead of the pic of Charlize Theron that I took in I look more like bloody Cherie Blair (not, of course, that I expected to be magically transformed into the former!)

Bearing in mind that I have just drastically altered my physical identity to accommodate our baby I sort of hoped DH would be waiting with a hug and a few platitudes - I had warned him that I didn't like the cut. Instead he laughed at me when I walked in the door, then told me it makes me look older and the colour is too dark.

I know this is trivial and vain but I just wanted to feel better about myself after feeling so fat, scruffy and knackered for the last couple of months. I just feel even worse now that DH has made no effort to even pretend my crappy haircut is OK. It's not his fault but I needed him to - er - lie!

Shoot him. Shoot him now.

it must be a man thing.

mum did the same thing with her hair when my youngest sister was very little, dad taught us to sing 'baldylocks, baldylocks' when mum came back.

she was not amused either!

Ok, in his defence he's always honest, but sometimes to a fault (like now!)

Seriously - you look great!

YANBU

BTW DP didn't even notice when I cut most of my hair off... (Almost everyone else did, even people I hardly know.)

Oh I would string him up by the balls until they fell off.

Incidentally I did the same as you when DS was 11 weeks old. I had shoulder length, beautifully highlighted hair. Stupidly I went to a new hairdresser(highly recommended by 2 friends). I asked for a trim and toffee highlights, quite sparse but still noticable.
I came out looking like a Myra Hindley/Spanish Hooker hybrid. I was not amused and couldnt even ask them to correct it as I just wanted to get home.
DP was great though, he had a wee chuckle whilst trying to say "its not that bad" (I had phoned him in tears) and he ran out to get me a dark dye to cover it and offered to pay for me to go to my regular hairdresser to have it sorted.
I could see the funny side after a few days but I was in floods of tears and DP admitted he thought I looked terrible, just as well he didnt say so at the time.

Like others have said, your hair will grow back and you will be able to laugh about it in a few days, however you should still string him up by the balls and play on one of his insecurities.

Its not that hard to lie until your feeling a wee bit better about yourself. Men = idiots.

Telling him that you will be paying another £80 to have it rectified should wipe the ridiculous grin from his face!

YANBU

I think he needs to experience true empathy.

I suggest that you wait until he's asleep and then shave off one of his eyebrows

YANBU - there's being honest and there's hurting someone's feelings when you know what you say will be hurtful.

It will grow back and you can go back in 6 weeks and have something else done. Possibly wash it and see if it looks better when styled differently.

If DH laughed and called me old looking after a hair cut I'd cry until he was super grovelling and offering chocolate.

Oh, and I'm sure you look gorgeous!

Maybe I'll refuse to trim his hairy back all summer

Well my DH thought that your DH's comments were tantamount to suicide.....well yeah kind of true.

Arf.

Just told DH about this. His eyebrows climbed so high up his forehead they nearly disappeared into his eyeline. This was accompanied by a shocked whistle and a 'Hope she doesn't do karate'.

YANBU. Demand recompense immediately.

Damn.

hairline, not eyeline.

What Norbert said Brilliant.

YANBU! Poor you! Silly man.

Did you tell the hairdresser you were not happy with your cut and colour?

Ditto question from Fab.

If after a few days you really can't live with it then go back to the hairdresser and see if there's anything else they can do regarding styling it a little differently or maybe taking a little more off.

Had a look at Cherie on Google. Does your hair look like this? If so then there's still enough length to play with.

tbh I should have had the balls to tell the hairdresser he'd cut it too short. No, not as much left as Cherie in that pic. Have just washed it to see what I can do - I usually prefer it when I style it myself. Won't be rushing back to the hairdresser, I'll just have to live with a bit, then tell him next time that I only want a tiny trim!

I think you are silly to go back to someone and let them loose on your hair when you are not happy this time and have said nothing.

You need to ring them and tell them you are not happy.

get some good styling products, mess about doing side swing fringes.Buy a couple of nice hair accessories slides etc to "funk it up
short hair always looks better with a bit of make up, and a good excuse to treat to a nice pair of earings.As for dh shave his one eyebrow off for him when he is asleep,

I had to get all mine chopped off 3 months after my DTs were born because it fell out in handfuls and I had really thin/balding patches around my hairline. I hated it and I feel your pain! My DH was unsympathetic too.

Go back and get some highlights and make DH pay for it for being insensitive!

KitCat1977 ~ Just wondered if you're happier with your hair now that you've lived with the cut for a few days?

Good post by Darkandstormy. Agree that some accessories like pretty clips or a hair band might help.