Wedding date

[Kaloki]

I know, I know, there's a wedding forum. But I'm feeling a bit ranty, and AIBU seemed a good place.

We are planning our wedding, and DP is on the phone to his mum about it. We know which date it will be, as we want it to be on the anniversary of the day we met. Reasonable so far?

DP's mum has just said we should rearrange it as his aunt (who we don't actually want to invite, but are doing so as a favour to his mum) might be working that day.

The wedding isn't that soon, we are giving people 4 months notice!

Please tell me this doesn't sound like a reasonable request to anyone else?

YANBU

No, YANBU! We planned our wedding with about 4 months notice, to coincide with the day we met too

Ours is also a Friday (for cheapness) and let everyone else sort out if they could make it or not.

Maybe if it had been a parent with a job that was impossible to rearrange working days, but not an unwtnted aunt!

Stick to your guns!

YANBU. Surely she can get a day off.

if you tried to arrange it around every tom dick and harry you'd never find a date suitable enough.

Who's paying though? If your MIL is then she might have a right to a say.

YANBU

ohhhh does, paying for the wedding give parents the rght to interfere? I didnt know that

YANBU - now is a good time to start putting your foot down - before wedding mania really starts.... some bloody random aunt who you don't want there anyway, does not get a say in the date you hold your wedding!!

Definitely NBU. Stick to what you want and invite who you want. If the aunt can't make it then that's a bonus. You get to not have her there whilst still having been polite enough to your MIL to have asked.
I don't think that making a financial contribution buys a right to overrule what the B&G want for their wedding day. Tis the thin end of the wedge to be overly accommodating to PIL at the expense of your own wishes. They will get to believe they have a right to a say in all your decisions. Good luck with your wedding

YANBU, she's being ridiculous.

Yeah, I reckon it's plenty of time for her to get the day of, and if it doesn't mean enough to her for her to take leave, then it's not important enough to rearrange your wedding for.

We got married on a monday, (for cheapness) which meant that lots of friends were only able to come in the evening after work (good - cheaper wedding breakfast!). Actually several friends who were teachers that we assumed would not be able to come (term-time) asked their bosses and were surprisingly enough given cover!!

YANBU! Totally mad. If dp's aunt has to work, so be it!!

SGM Oh don't tempt me!! Like I say, we didn't want the aunt anyway, we'd rather have DP's uncle who has been really good to us (whereas the aunt bitches about us) but DP's mum will get all mopey if we don't invite her favourite sister.

My parents are paying, and even they don't get that big a say. We are having a tiny wedding (12 guests) despite my dad wanting me to invite family members who I don't get on with. But he respects my wishes.

If anyone reads in the next 4 months of a goth girl murdering her future MIL, then I'm sorry, she made me do it These next 4 months are going to be interesting to say the least!