to think that perhaps MIL should not be showing her friends round my house?

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I like my mother in law, really I do, though she can be a bit of a pain but then so can I sometimes. We recently moved house (last week) and are still waiting for some bedroom furniture to arrive so bedrooms are a disaster zone i.e. living out of cardboard boxes at the moment. I had an appointment this morning and MIL very kindly offered to watch DD while I was out. Anyway, I returned to find a car in my driveway that I've never seen before, come in to my house and no one about. Go upstairs and find MIL showing her cronie (who I have never even met) round our bedrooms. It turns out MIL rang her friend and asked her round for coffee so she could show her our new house. I'm a bit hacked off by this, not just because I was a bit mortified at all the boxes but just that it's MY house, not hers to show folk around like a bloody museum curator! I think it's cheeky and when MIL said 'I hope you don't mind' I did say 'well I'd rather you didn't do it again' and now she's in the huff. AIBU?

OOOh . And when she comes to stay the first thing she does is walk through to the kitchen and call to ask DH and I if we would like a hot drink. She does the same if we have guests and starts offering sandwiches

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YANBU. I thought my MIL was odd when she started taking photos of our house. Didn't ask - just whipped out her camera.

Agree, it's a pride thing, so not too offensive.

I think you handled it well.

Keeping up boundaries is important, and she should have asked you first.

YANBU. However, my MIL would do the same but would be pointing out my poor housekeeping on the way round too...

Mine wouldn't have done this either tbh, but I suspect there are a lots ofladies of a certain age that might do this.

Duritzfan heads off to buy a Gimp mask for next time mil oversteps !

SloanyPony, loved your post! My MIL is a great woman but she does take over when she's in our house, offering me tea and lunch! I like it tho when she takes over the kids so can't really complain. My FIL is the opposite, he sits on his a**e doing absolutely nothing the whole time he's here and gets MIL to run about after him (cause he knows I'd never do it).

My MIL has done this and probably still does it when we are out. We did stop her having keys to our old place but now we have DC and feel the help she provides is probably worth the intrusion.

I would be tempted to do the same if my DC lived in a house like pagwatch's! But seems odd otherwise.