In thinking this is a step too far regarding facebook photos ??

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Have a 'friend' on their who I know from school, we only chat on there, swap photos etc usual stuff.

Sadly her baby died in August last year, I don't know how and I would never ask because we don't know each other personally.

I have just received a tagged album (not from her, somebody else) full of photos of the babies grave, his siblings kneeling and praying at the grave, his parents, arms wrapped around each other looking at the flowers, cards etc

I understand that these pictures were maybe put up to show people flowers etc they sent, it's not the parents I have issue with.

It's the person who tagged them to me, family/friend or whatever randomly distributing such personal photographs to someone who dosent really know them ?

So aibu in thinking people are becoming desensitised and over reliant on bloody facebook ? I've deleted the lot btw.

Agreed. Perfectly put, professorlayton.

I am convinced that FB was created for very much simpler reasons than apply to its use now. Certainly, I cannot believe it was intended to act as a medium for all emotional outpourings. I am not saying this is wrong, necessarily, but it does generate some sadly inappropriate behaviour at times.

PLIMLS - but the "passers by" aren't complete strangers. They are perhaps "acquaintances" rather than "close friends", in these cases.

I think the sharing of photos is probably fine in most circumstances, but should be more carefully selected. I'm not advocating only joyful photos, though that would perhaps be a fairly reasonable marker for being "suitable".

Of course, once photos have been put on the web, all and sundry can download or copy them in other ways. It's far from ideal once a photo is online, because it's like a genie released from a bottle with no chance of catching it again.

Remember an image online can then have thousands or millions of "perfect" copies, stored by Google, saved to other sites by someone given access to the original and possibly stored anonymously, so there's no easy way to trace which of your friends / family (or which of their contacts, if they forwarded an e-mail or image) had done it.

"some sadly inappropriate behaviour at times" - an understatement.

One of my nephews died in a fall from a block of flats before Christmas, leaving two daughters and his ex-partner.

No sooner had she heard than the Mum-of-two put something on FB about it (while in alcohol overload). Not ideal. Indeed, far from ideal.

I didn't say they were complete strangers. In fact, "passers by" is a reasonably neat analogy. These people are your neighbours, your schoolfellows, your colleagues, your dimly-recognised friends-of-friends; just the sort of people you'd expect to be passing by if your house were in a village rather than a city. When I lived in a village I would "know" in an acquaintanceship sense at least 75% of the people walking past the house, but I wouldn't have invited most of them in to share personal stuff.

you seem more bothered by the fact its on FB by the fact that a baby died TBH

If she was a good enough friend to "chat" to, would you not send her a message of condolance rather than talking about it here?

aplologies if you have done this and I did not read it....

My error - in my view the "passers by" would likely be strangers in the example given "But it would be odd if that friend then opened a window, leant out and invited passers-by to come in and have a look too."

It's one thing to give an example where your viewpoint is that of someone in a village, and a completely different viewpoint when considering the position in a city, so probably a poor example to use, PLIMLS.

Seems a legitimate concern, porcamiseria, insofar as sharing what some would consider to be very private photos. I don't think there's any intention to lessen the gravity of the situation for the family of the baby. However, if some acquaintance stumbled upon the set of photos (sorry if it is impossible, I'm just used to links through a database and some access may be provided when it was not the intention of the owner of the photos), and would be especially upset if they too had suffered a similar loss. (I suspect that's why the OP is 'bothered', let alone the possibility the owner of the photos may go unexpectedly back to their gallery of photos at a time when they were least considering their loss).