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To want someone to hold my hand and whisper 'there there' in my ear while I sob?

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monkeyfacegrace · 28/04/2010 18:34

Im broody. And poorly. So Im feeling awful about everything.

I feel guilty with a capital G that I have a sickness bug today, so tomorrow the kids will be chucked in the garden to play while I curl up and vomit/sleep/cry. They may even get a film on tv if they are lucky. I want to take them swimming/park/do painting etc etc and I beat myself up that Im a crap mum cuz on my day off Im ill.

And Im broody. So broody that I have to cross the road when I see a newborn or preg lady. I concieve instantly so thats not the problem, but we live in a 2 bed house that is in neg equity so we cant move, and we already have 2 kids, DD,3 and DS1 who share a tiny room. Its not fair.
I need to be grateful that I have two lovely healthy children, but I feel like there is a little space that needs filling.
And I had severe PND that wasnt sorted properly with both children, so I choose not to remember their first few months when I wanted to have them taken into care

I want to breastfeed too. I couldn't with my DD, and because of the horrendous time I had (and because my son was 32+6 premmie), I chose to put him straight to formula. I did put him to the breast once, after a few weeks, even though there was no milk, and he comfort sucked so beautifully that I convinced he would have fed like a dream. But I felt dirty and wrong doing it, even though I loved it. I felt like he wasnt mine to do that to.

Sorry I needed to just write down how I was feeling to try and stop the tears flowing.

My sweethearts are all tucked up in bed, but my 18mnth old has had the sickness bug too, and I know that there will be dihorrea to clean up within the hour.

Its a constant never ending cycle of stripping beds, washing, empty dishwasher, feed dogs, hoover dog hairs/bread crumbs/STUFF off my sodding floors, etc etc.

Sorry. Just down.

OP posts:
Macforme · 28/04/2010 18:43

(((((((HUGS!!!!!))))))))))
Broodiness and poorliness are a horrible combo and you are not at AL BU to need a sob and a cyber hug!

Totally empathise on the PND..I had it with two of mine and can never have those early days which should have been happy but weren't, back. (I also wanted my youngest adopted..he was born with disabilities and I fell apart.. couldn't feed him either... ) Nearly 13 years later I still feel sad at the sight of a newborn..

BUT hang on... it will pass. The broodiness... it will pass, and the sadness that comes with it, and the poorliness that makes you feel so down now, it will pass....

HANG IN THERExx

SloanyPony · 28/04/2010 18:45

There there.

Dont feel guilty. Dont feel sad.

Have a biscuit?

monkeyfacegrace · 28/04/2010 18:53

[sniff sniff]
Thanks
[sniff sniff]
My DH has been out and bought me pizza, and my pugs are curled up on my feet.
[sniff sniff]

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MudandRoses · 28/04/2010 22:23

Hey,
Just wanted to say, sorry you're feeling so down. It's corny but, you really do never know what tomorrow will bring. Things can change.
Wishing you well.

catinboots · 28/04/2010 22:54

HHUUUGGSSSS xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

moondog · 28/04/2010 23:01

Your kids will have a lovely time in the garden. All threy need is to be near you so that's no reason at all to feel bad.It is so tragic that you say it felt dirty and wrong to feed your son. You sound like you had a terrible time and you did the best you could with the strength and resources available to you at the time.

It wasn't wrong or dirty. How lovely he had a chance to suck and that yuo did indeed have a chance to breastfeed, which is as much about comfort sucking as feeding.

Hope tomorrow is a better day fro yuo.

**

runnybottom · 28/04/2010 23:03

I'm eating chocolate salted caramels, do you want one?

I hope your squits clear up soon. ((())))

PrettyVacant1 · 29/04/2010 09:17

How you feeling today Monkey?
Sending a squeeeeze.

monkeyfacegrace · 29/04/2010 09:29

Thanks for asking prettyvancant!
Im ok today, after a night of throwing the pizza (and runnybottoms caramels!) back up
My DH has taken the day off work though, so we are taking the dogs over the hill shortly, so all is not lost for today!

Still broody though. And still had to put another load of washing on this morning

And WHYYYYYYY is it, that the minute I say Im feeling sick, the RL response is.... 'ooooh go and buy a test'. Ahhh, Im allowed to just be ill!

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PrettyVacant1 · 29/04/2010 09:59

Tell 'em to shaddupa their faces.
Yes, you are allowed!
I have a leetle feeling that something is niggling at you though

Hpoe you feel better soon and have a lovely day with DC,DH & doggies.

PrettyVacant1 · 29/04/2010 10:00

Hope even

Mibby · 29/04/2010 10:31

Big Hugs xx

Being broody is rotten when you cant do anything about it, idiots who say 'do a test' if you feel queasy are just annoying and unhelpful and sickness bugs are lousy. Poor you Im not surprised you feel down

Hope a dog walk in the sun helps a little

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