to tell DH to take a running jump?

[Greensleeves]

OK - I know 99% are going to disagree with me, but I am up for the flaming anyway, as I am just so cross and flustered and upset I need to spill it

I work in a children's centre with SEN kids - I am meant to finish at 3.45

today I was told at the last minute to do the gate for the parents instead of my usual role - so I didn't get out of work till five to four

I thne have to run to afterschool club, retrieve both boys (ds1 has AS, and he hides/loses his stuff/is a nightmare)

walk them home, change ds2 into Judo kit and get straight out again to walk him to Judo by 4.30

originally I was doing this, then waiting around at the local pub with ds1 for an hour, then walking back to pick him up and take them both home (we have to sit outside the pub because they don't allow children) It's not worth coming home and going straight out again.

this morning DH said "you drop ds2 off at Judo and take ds1 home, and I will pick up ds2 and bring him home"

I had a really hectic day at work today and the Judo run was particularly hurried because of me being late out of work, and ds1 hiding/having lost his coat

By the time ds1 and I got home from Judo I was hobbling, my feet are killing me (it's my own fault, I am fat and not very fit, but I am knackered - I've only just started working every day and it's a shock to the system)

so I got home with ds1 in tow

then dh messages me "sorry darling, I am going to have to shaft you"

I reply "NO WAY am I turning straight around and going back to pick up ds2, you agreed to do it, you bloody do it!"

he says he has been asked to wait around for a conference call about the project he's working on

I say "tough shit, you shouldn't have had kids then, I am NOT doing it"

AIBU?

YABU to tell him to take a running jump but it does depend when he first knew he would have to take this call.

It is an arse of a situation, but I don't think either of you are being unreasonable. It is just a bitch of a thing to happen.

Poor you and your feet.

Sometimes though at work things do happen like that. Sometimes you can have an unplanned call/meeting which you do have to attend. So no it's not rocket science but it proibably is deemed important at his work.

It is probably easier for a bloke to get out of work to collect a child than it is for a woman. If a bloke does childcare duties, he is a hero. If a woman has to bow out of something due to childcare, she is an unoprganised flake.

He should have said from the outset 'no, sorry, Greensleevs is in Poland, there is nobody else to collect the kids, too late to sort anything else, delay the conference call I will call in from hom at 6pm' or whatevere but perhaps he was under pressure/in the mindset and just accepted the call. Not good but he probably can't back out now.

Can you call a cab, go via the cashpoint to oick up your DS (I have done this in the past, unfortunately £££)

And make him give you a footrub later.

I didn't mean rocket science, I meant a hreat transplant.

Oh you know what I mean

Agree with everything GetOrf has just said

Try to look at this from this angle...all those calories you burn by walking back to pick up DS from Judo, can be replaced by the take-out you make DH bring home with him on his way back from work - making it calorie free!

Sorry Greeny but I think YABaleetleU.

Sometimes at work it's hard to say no so I do feel for him a bit.

He did call and I'm sure he felt awful. That's not to say I don't feel for you too and I would be cursing under my breath for hours.

YANBU. From my experience of male colleaues "urgent unplanned conference call I can't get out of" is usually "planned well in advance conference call which I can't get out of because I clean forgot until ten minutes ago and I was the one who suggested this time"...

Kittens - you speak a lot of sense.

YANBU WTF Is a BINGO channel