to have told off the children next door?

[puddeycat]

Sorry a bit of a rant! my neighbours and i have a 5 ft fence separating our gardens,they have 4 children,2 older and twins of 3.They also have 2 rather large alsations. I have 2 staffordshire bull terriers ( Dopey as anything usually great with kids) so the fence is high enough to stop the dogs seeing or attacking each other.
Anyway they have recently been clearing their tip of a garden and have put a stack of rubble up against the fence,(their garden, they can do what they like) BUT their dog keeps climbing the rubble and hanging over the fence so my dogs jump up and try to attack them.
I Have been dragging the dogs in everytime, so trying to stop dogs either hurting each other or themselves!I have also had a word with my neighbour to stop the dogs doing this.
Today they have put the trampoline next to the fence and the twins are hanging over the fence winding the dogs up, calling their dogs to get on the trampoline to annoy my dogs,and calling my dogs to jump up the fence,which my older, cranky dog, who is 11 years old, did and nearly bit her!!!
have now lost it and went mad at the twins,
and then at their mum when she finally came out in the garden, which is prob wrong of me but one of the reasons we bought this house was for somewhere for the dogs to run.She said its their garden to play in and they can do what they like. If my dogs had jumped up and bitten one of their hands or one could have jumped up and fallen awkwardly then she would prob have a moan at me!
I just want to be able to open my back door and let my dogs run and play in the garden without keep having to go out there and keep dragging them in.
We are going out this weekend to replace the fence with a 7ft one ,even though its not our side. AIBU?

YABU - they're not your kids to go "mad" at. It probably is an annoying situation, but maybe speaking to the mother in a calm and controlled way would have been more appropriate than losing it with a couple of 3 year olds.

YANBU to be concerned about the twins hanging over the fence.

Have you tried to have a word?

yabu if you take down there fence,even if you do replace it!!

how will you all cope whilst a new fence is being erected? are you expecting them to keep everyone indoors for the duration?

You should have gone around and had a normal rational discussion. Screaming at toddlers over a fence is very unreasonable, whether you are in the right or not.

You need to check what you're allowed re fencing - we're only allowed 6 ft fences.

I think YABabitU; you should go round and talk about it with your neighbour not just leave it till you get so cross you have to shout at her children.

Plant massive fast growing trees on the borders not only will it serve as a better barrier it will give you privacy. It will also take away the sun from their garden too maybe it will teach them to be better neighbors.

I am the odd one out here clearly. I don't think you were being unreasonable at all. I used to have a staffy (RIP Pod) and while he was fabulous with people, he was a total nightmare with other dogs.
I'm not sure how legal replacing your NDN's fence is though.

You are not being unreasonable, but I think you didn't have to 'lose it' and 'go mad'.

If you'd kept your cool they probably would've been more inclined to listen to you.

Ok,

Is the fence, yours, or your neighbours?

Are goint o replace the fence, or put the new fence up against it, iyswim? (effectively having 2 fences)

Pretty sure you will need planning permission for a fence over 6ft tall.

I think you know yabu shouting at the twins, but how about you go round to your neighbours (with bottle of wine) and discuss things calmly? Perhaps discuss the possibilty of taller fence, and if you're willing to pay and install it, then they might be rather pleased (esp if they are doing they garden?)

Are you going to

sorry for typos

Ive spoken to their parents numerous times and yes i shouldnt have told the twins off BUT I am fed up with constantly having to go out and bring my dogs in and shut the back door.
We usually have a really good relationship with them and chat alot. But they just dont seem to want to do anything about it.
I know they are going on holiday this weekend from friday to the monday, And they both dont work and dont have alot of money,and they rent the house from another neighbour who lives a few doors down who i also get on well with. So if i asked their landlord, im sure she wouldnt mind the fences being replaced.
I just dont want the twins getting hurt or having to have my dogs destroyed.

YANBU

I would ask before replacing the fence though.

Don't apologise for telling them off! If my DD was doing this I would absolutely support my neighbour in telling her off.

you are not being unreasonable, you are concerned about THEIR safety.
well done for trying to fix this issue before someone gets hurt!

why don't you speak to the landlord who you know and ask about having the rubble removed so the situation of the dogs/dc climbing up in reach of your dogs is eliminated?

How dense are these dp though not to realise their dc might get seriously hurt?

I don't know when you were losing it with the mother if you a ctually said, the result of your twins leaning over the fence taunting my dogs was that one of the dogs reacted by trying to bite your dc and was very nearly successful (dimwit) which is why I lost it. I do not want your dc hurt but that is inevitably what will happen if the situation is unchanged becasue my dogs do run freely in the garden all the time - that is why we have the garden.

Honestly don't see the harm in suggesting they put their trampoline against another side of the garden or move the rubble so your dogs/dc don't risk getting hurt. After all they own dogs themselves and alsations can get pretty nasty when roused.