to think she should pay for a new one?

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DS1 is 8 and a child in his class kicked and broke his new lunchbox as well as getting bark chippings in his lunch which meant he could only eat his yoghurt.

This child is supposed to be coming for a sleepoever on Friday, with 2 others, DS1 does not want him to come.

I txt the Mum who I know and explained what had happened and to ask her DS about what went on, to get both sides of story.

She's just txt back saying that they should be able to sort it out themselves.

I would at the very least have offered to pay for a new lunchbox?

I know they have squabbles, but he broke his property.

AIBU?

DD always had those material lunchboxes after I was sick of her having sat on them/drop kicked them and alwaysg etting broken.

OP - if your son does not want this boy to come round, I think you should listen to him. Definitely ring not text, as this kind of thing needs to be done via a converstaion not etxt message.

Yes, she should offer to buy a lunchbox if her son did it maliciously.

Ooh - I can understand you being miffed at something new broken but I think a text isn't the way to deal with it - it's more of chat face to face type of thing isn't it to get the best response for both sides?

My kids have broken the zips on those material lunchboxes and the lining has ripped

And I stand by my point that I do care if mine or my kids property gets broken - its about learning teh value of things, and taking care of and appriciating the things they do have, whether it cost £1 or £1000.

I'm with macdoodle on this.

Kids break stuff. I get through so many lunchboxes and scooters and clothes and everything. They also need to sort out their own playground issues because with the best will in the world we can't be there so we can't know exactly what went on.

I would also feel pretty pissed off at being texted with one sided petty complaints about stuff which may or may not have happened which I could never have done anything about anyway.

You have to remember you are only getting your dss side as many others have said.

However, I would be happy enough to un-invite a sleepover guest. I would say to the mum, 'They seem to have fallen out so I reckon it's in both their interests if we call off the sleepover'. If that's what your ds wants.