to be proud of myself for helping a friend...

[susssiq]

I am looking after her 1 year old twins as well as my own 1 year old for no reason just thought there mum could use a few hours for herself!! (and the fact that all 3 are sleeping is good too )

That's very sweet of you - she will remember that for years to come. It's the little things like that are the most help to a mum.
I remember my family only offering to do the housework whilst I had the baby. I would have actually preferred to do the housework whilst they had the baby!

good on ya! hows it going?

You know ur not.. . . .and well done. The mum will really appreciate your kind help...good luck !!

surely that's what friends do? help each other.

YABU for bigging yourself up for doing a little favour for a friend.

RR - she's not bigging herself up. we all need some encouragement sometimes.

she sounds like she's doing quite alright by herself without us patting her on the back. strange thing to post IMO.

That is the best gift you can give, well done, can you come to my house next please?

Actually, I think you are proud that you have them all and have not gone completely bonkers and just needed somewhere to post that. You are being nice, and I wish you had lived near me when dd1 was little...

I guess I do need the encouragement, most days I struggle looking after my own kids and running the house whilst battling depression and tiredness.

odd that some people think it is ok to put others down for doing a favour just because they were proud enough to write here, probably the ones that never do favours for others and look out for nr 1!!!

twins are hard work! well done for letting the mum have a break

btw... would she be bigging herself up if the thread was "aibu to think i must be insane..."

good question

YANBU. How lovely of you

i do favours for other people all the time, i dont do it for the praise though, i do it because someone needs a favour doing.

sorry if you dont like my response, this is aibu and i think you are. i'm just not used to massaging the ego of a fully grown woman.

I did it to make my friends life easier and not because she needed it just to be nice! So you are never proud of yourself for helping people?

the thread isn't called "to want praise for doing a favour"

fair enough in response to your question, no, yanbu to feel proud for doing a favour for someone. you are clearly not used to doing favours for people and believe this requires a round of applause.

i do think yabu for posting on MN about it though. there are no gold stars here.

Sometimes people do just need some priase.....only human nature. I dont think your response was necessary BOOYHOO. We can think such things, but its not necessary to post them...Its clear Sussiq did want praise , so just offer such and be kind !! WEll done SUSS . . .your are not a bad person for posting. !!

i never said she was a bad person. check my posts.

"we can think some such things, but it's not necessary to post them"

my point exactly.

yeah but she was not being hurtful.....NO you didnt tell her she was bad,,,i am just reassuring her that she is not.

i speak my mind, i apologise to sussiq if my response was hurtful but we are all adults and i really thought it quite ridiculous that an adult would post such a thing on an internet forum, very obviously angling for praise. my 4 year old ds angles for praise when he draws a nice picture. if an adult friend of mine had said something similar to the OP i would ask them if they are feeling ok and offer them a seat. surely an adult is capable of praising themselves and not seeking approval from strangers for doing a very normal thing. i thought such neediness was something we all grew out of when we became adults.

again i apologise for any hurt caused by my comments i will leave the thread as i have nothing further to add.

It's a nice thing to do.

"clearly not used to doing favours for people"

ehh how do you reckon you know that from a couple of posts?

must be nice to not need recognition for doing nice things good for you. Yes you did hurt my feelings apology accepted!!

Hi sussiq - I completely understand why you posted. I had pnd for 2 yrs and tbh, walking to the village shop (with DD is pram) to buy a pint of milk took all my effort and took everything out of me for the whole day so it's obviously something to be proud of if you're looking after your own 2 children and someone else's twins who are only a year old. I couldn't have offered I don't think when I was depressed. I could barely say hello to anyone!
I think having depression changes you as a person and makes you much more aware of others' needs. I am certainly a kinder and less selfish person since having pnd.
ps- I'm not assuming you have pnd; you said depression but I'm not assuming.