I know I shouldn't be laughing, but SNURK... "DS has found his willy, Part 2"

[Jacksmama]

Old thread here

To briefly summarize, when DS was 22 months, he found his willy and thought it was great . I mentioned this to my friend and she said him playing with it would turn him into a pervert (I'm paraphrasing but that was essentially it). I then asked her what she thought her DD was doing when she scooted up to one of the load-bearing posts in their house and, well, rocked . Friend freaked out. See previous AIBU thread.

So today I got a hysterical phone call from her. Apparently she went into her DD's room to wake her from her nap (the DCs are now both around 26 months) and caught her DD with her hand down her nappy. Doing we-all-know-what . Friend says she just freaked ("again", JM says, rolling on floor laughing). And freaked some more when her DD said "mummy, there is a button, and it feels good".

Sorry, I'm laughing so hard I'm crying. In my not so very humble opinion, children finding and exploring their sexual bits is NORMAL!!! And nothing to freak out about!! My friend was in tears when she rang. I will say I tried to be supportive of her distress, but equally tried to make the point that this is normal, FFS!

Am I being horrible? Bearing in mind that she called me a "filthy-minded cow" the last time, and it took a while to ptach things up...

Filthy minded cow? I'm not sure I'd have patched anything up with someone who called me that. YANBU about your ds, you could be considered a tiny bit U about her dd. Each to their own is my motto.

A 26 month old said "mummy, there is a button, and it feels good"-blimey!

Yikes, DS (1 on sunday) was playing with his willy last night after his bath and got a stiffy! I thought he was going to wee but no, not the case!

It's the most natural thing in the world, we all do it and those who say otherwise or claim to have NEVER touched themselves, even to wash are lying. Yet it's still a huge taboo.

It only becomes an "issue" as such to the adult, like your friend who sees it as embarrassing or wrong.

The child knows no different and shouldn't be made to feel dirty or bad for experimenting in my book.

YANBU but maybe she's not as accepting of this type of situation as you are?

"Mummy there's a button and it feels good". Erm did you make that up that's really weird language for a 26m old to use

how funny, shes just being uptight. I would explain to my daughter that she can do that in private but shouldnt really let others know and leave it at that... I mean, you dont want her doing it on the bus!

Boys start playing with their willies at about 1 year old and dont stop for longer than a couple of hours at a time until theyre 90, she needs to chill out!

My 3.6 year old loved his "magic willy when it feels all sparkly mummy!"

No you're not being horrible. She's... wierd.

when i was about 2.5 i apparently told my mum i had another ' tounge ' and it felt good.
so its certainly plausable for a child that age to say that i think.

About the button feeling good - I'm repeating what she told me, but I expect she paraphrased. Her DD does speak very well for a 26-month-old, but I'm sure it was more like "mummy, button (there), (feels) good" or something.

Am PMSL at "magic willy when it feels all sparkly". LOL!

DS has learned to retract his foreskin back and forth. He's about 2 and a half. He was happily doing this after bath one night whilst I was sorting out his pj's etc and he turned to me and said "you do it", turning his willy towards me.

Um, no. Its yours. You do it. If you must...

LOL!!

My DS 3.6 is going through a lovely phase of pulling his pants down in public and shouting "Look Mummy! My willy is popping out!" He thinks it's hilarious. I walk away and pretend he's not mine!

Hiya jacksmama, my dd of a similar age is a good speaker like that child, so yes, they can say things like that. Haven't seen my dd doing anything like that and yes it would freak me out

My Ds (1) has found his too - it's a fight to get a wipe there first if he's done a poo

My 19 month old walks around touching himself all bloody day long.
This morning he'd managed to pull his willy out of his nappy (it was sticking up) and had peed all over himself. Lovely.

See? It's all normal

A friend of mine's little girl has been using the between-the-legs strap on her Bugaboo since she was teeny-tiny; She just rocks against it...
I think it's a bit unsettling but really sometimes you just have to let kids be innocent and not bring your own adult self-consciousness/embarrassment to bear on them. They'll find their own soon enough.

Oh - and just remembered DS (3.5 at the time) - saying, panicked, "Mum! The bone's gone away out of my willy! It was there before and now it's gone! oh...I made it come back"

My sister to her little one( many years ago) " Don't do that darling, it's not nice "

Swift reply ....."Oh but it is nice mummy."