to feel a bit peeved about my present?

[chicaguapa]

I'm sure the answer is going to be IABU but I need someone to tell me to get a grip!!

My dad has bought me a lovely housewarming present of an expresso coffee machine. The problem is that it's a Nespresso one and I boycott Nestle products! When he gave it to me he said that he knows it's Nestle but surely it doesn't count when I haven't bought it myself. I didn't like to mention that I will now be tied to buying Nestle coffee for evermore!!

I'm pissed off with myself for not feeling more grateful. I appreciate the gesture and know he's bought it as he really likes his one etc. Someone please tell me just to get over myself!

YANBU, I think. Can you exchange it for a more acceptable alternative?

Can you only use Nestle in it? Can you exchange it? I don't think you are being unreasonable

Yes, get over yourself. Appreciate the gesture, then freecycle it, or burn it in public as a protest.

Just don't use it if you are uncomfortable with Nestle. If you give it away, whoever gets it will buy the products.
Fwiw I doubt the efficacy of boycotting Nestle, BUT think it is an entirely reasonable thing to avoid.

I think since your father knows your feelings about Nestle YANBU.

any chance that you could tactfully say that you don't have space for it/would like something similar in a different colour/have real problems finding stockists of the capsules (even if it is because nobody stocks these capsules that are not made by nestle and so want to change it to something that is the same (ie a coffe maker) but one made by somebody that you do approve of.

This is assuming that you want a coffee maker of course!

I think it is very thoughtful of him to give you a present; it is just completely unthoughtful to deliberately get something that goes against somebody's principles...

COuld you ask him in all innocence where you can get capsules that aren't made by nestle from because it's still sitting in its box waiting for you to find non-nestle capsules? And pretend that you thought it would use capsules by anyone? See if that would get him to offer to change it...

yanbu - when someone knows that you avoid something then it is mean to give them a gift that involves it. If you were allergic to nuts then he wouldn't give you a box of choc brazils because they were his favourites, or if you had to avoid pork for religious reasons then he wouldn't turn up with a party pack of pork scratchings. OK so those are maybe extreme examples, but I think the sentiment is the same - I know you think this but hey you'll see that I know better that you and you'll love this thing more than the thing you think you believe in.

hope that's not too !

Just for once, accept this gift, buy other coffee and donate some money to a charity that will help you feel better.

I think it would be cery churlish to reject the gift.

I'm pretty sure all the 'pod' type systems fit each other.

YABU

the pods aren't all compatible btw

Thanks for all your replies. I have discovered that it's possible to re-fill the Nespresso capsules with a different brand of coffee, which I feel a lot happier about. So I shall do that instead of buying new ones. Then I will feel very noble about undertaking such a labour intensive task as an alternative to using Nestle coffee!