To be annoyed with my dad?

[dunceinlove]

I am a single mum and for the past two years mum and dad have very kindly taken us on holiday down to Cornwall.
They booked a date for this year. I have since stareted more hours at a job i love-in a jewellers but not high flying but important to me.
i had to tell worek what dates i was taking sa holiday so they booked me in. dad was quite insistent that it was the 22nd. he has now changed his tune and has booked everything for the 29th. it is too late to change as work shifts have been booked up.
I just feel that he has the final say on everything and expects us all to work around that. he of course denies that he said the 22nd when he quite emphatically did.

Well, what does he expect you to do? Give up your job? The answer is that you really appreciate their kindness in taking you on holiday, but as you can't get the time off you can't go.

If your dad is not flexible with the dates, then it looks like you won't be holidaying with them this year, which seems a shame. Now you are working more hours could you afford to holiday with out them this year?

Agree with fluffy

the brutal truth is i think i'd rather go to work. more of a holiday than with dad atm!

Stay at work and let your parents take the DCs!

Agree that work takes priority. As for the next step, a neutral way to smooth things over might be to tell him you hope he can find another guest to make use of the room(s) he so kindly booked - what about Cousin X?

He sounds like he's used to being the provider/controller/patriarch. As with other posters I think work has to be a priority, and surely he should understand that? Suggest that if they want to take the DC's you'd really appreciate that, and maybe you could organise a weekend away for you all another time? That way you;re taking control a bit more, asserting your position as an adult, but still being nice.