Midwives in the US generally practice out of hospital. There is a minority of hospitals that have midwife led birth centres (only one in San Diego).
In the last ten years, the situation has worsened here. The tide turned against VBACs after a couple of lawsuits and hospitals are becoming increasingly reluctant to perform them.
Midwives are also facing considerable legal pressure. Direct entry midwifery is illegal in 11 states. The types of birth which midwives can attend at home is under threat and mothers of multiples or with breech births will be lucky to find ANYONE who will allow them to attempt a vaginal delivery. Few OBs will do it. Some midwives are comfortable with them but their position is under threat. In Oregon there is significant pressure on midwives to stop supporting VBACs.
I'm not saying all women should have vaginal deliveries but they should have the choice.
In my experience, women face significant difficulty if they request no pitocin, no epidural, active delivery, physiological third stage etc. etc. In the hospital I've studied in (considered one of the best in LA/San Diego), women undergoing caesareans are restrained to the table and their babies are removed immediately afterwards. No skin to skin or immediate breastfeed.
Those of you who have found good OBs over here are very lucky. I know of /one/ in the whole county who supports natural birth and San Diego is considered progressive. Also, if you had your babies more than five years ago, things may well have changed.
I also wonder how far out of the 'norm' your requests and your labours were. Additionally many doctors 'play along' with requests for a natural birth and then once you arrive in labour, your doctor disappears and you are stuck on the labour+delivery conveyor belt along with everyone else and coaxed into 'just a whiff' of Pitocin.
Also, cervical sweeps are performed regularly without consent. OBs insist on a vaginal examination at around 38 weeks. Generally, they perform an unconsented sweep during this exam.
I'm sorry to the poster who objected to the 'America bashing' but this /is/ an American problem. The American obstetric model is deeply flawed. As I say, it's based on Friedman's curve. Friedman himself has said it was the worst thing he ever came up with.