To not be ready to give up yet, im not, im so not eady yet.

[meatntattypie]

Its just, how much can i inflict upon my body?
Im 40 soon, i need to have a baby, i need to.

I told dh that i was done with it all 5 months ago, but the feelings are getting stronger and stronger.
I am going to talk to him about it.

wwyd?

do you already have children? If not then YANBU, if you have, I think that it is a natural reaction to feel this way when you reach 40ish.

i have one, a 6 year old.
been trying for 4 years for another.

No, of course you're not. You're hardly a one woman population explosion. Does your husband not want another one? Is that the issue?

I had a surprise first baby at 45, my partner was 56 and after the initial shock, everything was fine. DP even offered to try for a sibling until I questioned his sanity. I have faith in most men being pretty good at adapting when there's not much choice. Talk to him.

Talk to him. Of course you're not ready to give up!

Have you been having fertility treatment? Did you conceive dc1 naturally?

My DD is 15. My DS is 3. In the years in between I had 3 mis's, stopped trying for 5 years, decided to try again, had another 5 mis's. I remember standing in the kitchen after seeing the Doc about contraception and my DH saying 'ring them, make an appointment, get the coil fitted' and me crying and saying that I couldn't, not quite yet, I wasn't ready to give up. And that month DS was made and hung in there long enough to survive.

Good luck and I hope your DH will support you.

Dh is desperate for another.

I have no health issues, i just have lots of mcs...no one knows why.

They get harder and harder each time.

Your situation sounds so similar to my friends. She did "give up" when she turned forty after many miscarriages but I guess the yearning never really went because she surprised us all at 43 whe she announced she was 20 weeks and thankfully and wonderfully had a lovely, healthy boy.

meatntattypie - have you been investigated for any immune response conditions? so sorry you are having this struggle.

If you have had 3 m/c you are meant to be investigated.

Nothing wrong with how you are feeling but it might be time to seek advice.

YANBU. so so hard. I'm not done either. Don't know if it would ever happen again but I'll not stop wishing it would.

not unreasonable, very sorry for your losses, I'll keep my fingers crossed for you

meatntattypie YADNBU and please don't give up

I am nearly 38 and have just had a DS after 6 years of trying, my DD is 11

I too had problems similar to yours and it was only after I was diagnosed with hypothyroidism and subsequently treated with a daily dose of thyroxine was I able to concieve and have a successful pregnancy.

If another child is what your heart aches for do not hesitate to exhaust every avenue to have a baby and ask your GP for a full set of tests.

I hope life starts to treat you better soon xx