On Easter sunday i had planned to have my Mum,Dad, sister, her hubby & 3 kids round for lunch. Three days before, i had a slight disagreement with my mum because i hadn't invited my brother and his family (i have never been very close to him, and his kids are...lets say a challenge) Anyway after having these words with my mum where i said as it was my house it was up to me who i invited, she did apologise and everything was fine.
So forward onto sunday - My sis phones an hour before and says "don't worry if not but i was wondering if i can bring mother in law along too". I know MIL very well as i used to clean her flat every week but she can be your best friend one minute then slag you off the next. My sis has never had much time for her and even her hubby hardly sees her.(it's actually his stepmum not his real mum)
Anyway i hadn't catered for an extra one and just days before i had found out the MIL had slagged me off for something so i said to my sis "actually if you don't mind i'd rather not have her", My sis was then really off with me on the phone and i could tell she was pissed off. A bit later i decided to save an argument i would phone my sis back and invite the MIL but as i picked up the phone it rang and it was my sis phoning me and said we are not coming today, when i asked why she said because she was pissed off that i won't invite MIL.
I was really pissed off because i had spent a fortune on all this food and had spent all morning preparing it. i said FINE and slammed the phone down. Well that was nearly three weeks ago and we haven't spoken since.
Maybe i am being unreasonable and i should have just said yes in the first place but i'm so angry that she refused to come just because i wouldn't invite MIL. AIBU to think that as it is my house i should be able to decide who comes and i shouldn't be held to ransom.
To top it all, my sis had very kindly told my brother that i was having everyone round for dinner and hadn't invited him so i had already had my SIL at the door that morning asking why they wern't invited.
All in all it was a bloody shitty day.