To hate village life?

[CrowAndAlice]

What made me think i'd be happier in such a closeted place?? I have fantasies about either being in the middle of nowhere and driving DCs to school for a quick drop off / pick up or living in an anonymous city.

I'm guessing both of those have their problems too.

Everyone tries to interfere, i'm not the most sociable of people. I work from home and get phone calls from other mums wanting to pop round for coffee.

Every day it's can X come back or can i go to Y's house and if i tell my DCs not to ask for a few days i get other folk's DCs asking me.

Yesterday at school there was a scrap between two of DD1s 'friends' (as in not close but same circle iyswim) - the one who started it was hauled over the coals by the school. Last night both of the mums phoned me wanting to speak to DD (who is 8) to find out what happened as she witnessed it and one asked if DD could go in and tell the school with her. Then the other phoned and said the first one was on her way round to speak to DD in person. She went to bed a bit worried tbh an d i think their behaviour was inappropriate (and told them so).

I can't imagine my mum getting a phone call when i was 8 from two of my friend's mums about a scrap - times are odd...

I feel a line has been crossed...

YANBU. Villages can be isolating and uninspiring. And when your children are older they'll hate it too.

Move!

I should say I lived on a farm miles away from a village or town when I was a child and hated the isolation.

Yes, do as violethill says. Move before our children beg you to send them to boarding school - as I did.

YABU. I grew up in the countryside and still can't understand city people who don't talk to their neighbours - it's unnatural and I find it much more cliquey in town. In villages, there tends to be more inter-generational mixing - you just have to hang out with anyone going and not be fussy.

Maybe you should try being more friendly. They probably think you've got something to hide.

When I first got married we moved to a town and I thought how weird iot was when you passed people on the pavement and they didn't say hello.In a village you say hello and pass the time of day with everyone you meet whether you know them or not.
I don't think it is a bad thing though for teenage children to be kept away from the bad influences of underage clubbing etc.Village teens seem to be a lot more family orientated than town kids

I was brought up in a very small village lived theren until I went to Uni. When I was a child I was happy with it because I didn't know any different. However, when I was older I knew I would have to get away if I wanted any life of my own.

In our village everybody knew everybody else's business. So little happened that any incident in anyones life, however small, was discussed endlessly and they never forgot it. If a girl had once had a bit too much to drink at a village disco when she was a teenager and been caught snogging, then the village gossips would probably still be saying "she is no better than she should be" when the poor woman was in her 40s.

I love it! I just went back to teh big city, in the US where I was born. It was nice having all those conveniences, and I missed my family.

But it was ugly, the schools were all crap and everyone who could afford it went private, crime, etc.

Ugggh.

No, thanks.

Never having to worry about school places and/or shite schools alone is worth it to us!

I know where you are coming from. Mawdesley, a tiny dormitory enclave for inbred Tories and snobbish commuters in Lancashire is pure hell to live. People are horrible and snobby. Lots of horsey types and aging snobs glaring out of Range Rovers. Hard to fit in unless you think you are better than everyone and live in a big ugly mansion driving a Range Rover to drop off the kids.