to not want dinner with DH's ex-W?

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She heard that DH is working away tonight and invited DS and I over. No hidden agenda; she's simply trying to be nice. And apparently the stepkids (as in, hers and DHs) want me there too.

AIBU not to want to go? I've got nothing but gratitude that she's being so considerate and mature and that their kids don't hate me. But still, I don't enjoy spending time with her.

AIBU?

Bite the bullet and go. The kids need to see you being civil, even if you aren't friends.

Difficult one but if ds would like it then it's only one night out of your life?

Plus is ds their half brother? I can imagine they would want some sort of relationship if so?

Bite the bullet and go - think what a positive example you are both setting the children. After all, you don't have to stay late - it's a school night, DS needs to get to bed!

However, YANBU to not want to go!

WOW I think thats nice she has asked you over, you can do it - My DP's x and I (they were together for 6 years) regularly see each other, its not wierd, although it can be if she says things that are innapropriate, but beleive me, I think its healthy for the kids x

Agree it isn't unreasonable to not want to go but we all have to do things sometimes that we don't want to...sadly.

Would go along just to appear as being nice - to not give her any grounds for complaint to your dh.

I think you should go, it's setting a good example for the DC.

What's your relationship with her been like in the past? Do you think she's trying to build bridges with you?

Points taken. Will go. For DS and the stepkids. It's kind of her to ask.

She's a brilliant cook, at least

It sets a very postive example for all the DC's involved if you go. It's so healthy for them to see everyone get along, plus the children can all play together which will be great for them

She sounds like a great Ex wife tbh!

Go, enjoy, don't drink and talk only of kids, ash clouds and weather! Come home thinking what a brilliant mum you are for beng so positive and fabby.
YANBU for how you feel and I admire you, I'd be suspicious, but then I'm a suspiscious old cow! ;)

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YANBU for not wanting to go, but I vote that you should go and put on your best fake nice smile, if only so DCs can get to spend time together. Good luck!

omg.

the thought of having dinner with DP's ex and DD's half sister.

she LOATHES and DETESTS me, the mad cow

yeah you should go, i think its cool to show the kids that you get on.

I agree with everyone. Plus, it is nice to see who the children are spending time with, as you both raise each others children in a way.
It may feel awkward for a minute, but once there, probably it will feel natural, together with the children.

How was it? Glad you decided to go

Good for you. It meant so much to me when my mum made the same choice many years ago. Graduations, weddings etc were enjoyable rather than stressful as a result & my brother & I are so grateful to our mum for her selflessness.

Gosh, how civilised.
Good for her.
Do go-it will mean so much to the children.

Glad you decided to go.

I have a fabulous relationship with dh's ex wife. It makes things so much easier for everyone, and is such a good example for your children.

OP, how was it? did she poison you?