to be furious with DH over something so small?

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I am really really cross over this. I know its only a small thing really but its infuriated me!
DS1 is starting primary school this year. We had put him down for a very highly sought after primary near by as our first choice and another more realistic choice as second choice.
we find out today where he got allocated.
I said to DH first thing this morning that I was expecting the email today and nervous to see where we had been allocated. There was no email when I left to take DCs out and DH started work.
About 2 hrs later I got the email on my phone and texted DH straight away (as well as 2 friends) saying 'DS has got st marks!!!' (St. Mark's is the name of our first choice). Both friends replied straight away saying comgratulations and how pleased they are. Dh replied saying 'not sure what you meant to write but think its a typo.. what has DS got?'
He is basically so bloody disinterested in the whole thing that he couldnt even figure out what I meant! I would bet a million pounds that if I hadnt texted and then didnt say anything all day he would not have mentioned it again as it wasnt on his mind.
He thinks I'm completely unreasonable for being so cross as I didnt put St. Mark's with all the capitals and the apostrophe so there was no chance he would be able to recognise it. I think it shows a basic lack of interest in anything thats going on with the family and if my friends could figure out what I meant, then so should he!!! FGS he came to the school with us to look round it so should know full well what its called!
Am aware that I probably sound a little unhinged, but this is the latest in a long line of him 'not remembering' things and me feeling like he just doesnt take enough of an interest!

It's not a question of not being interested, it's a question of it not being a big deal at that particular time. If DH rang me to say West Ham had won the cup whilst I was at work (unlikely I know!) I'd not give it the hysteria it required especially if I didn't totally understand the somewhat cryptic message. And there is also the possibility that he was having a little joke which fell dramatically flat.

without the pre-amble - 'stretch marks' - st marks for my eyes.

tsc - he's got it coming. I'd give him the 2yo in the morning and say "Bye!"

(Except in my case he'd get MIL round to deal with 2yo - too easy for him here.)

Well, I don't thnk you are BU at all. You had talked about this 2 hours beforehand and presumably several times before that, you had told him you should hear today about St Marks... it is a big deal, getting DS into a great school. He should be right up there with you wanting to see if you have or not. In 2 hours, how can 'Oh I really hope he gets into St Marks, do you think he will, I wonder when we'll find out - blah blah blah' turn into stmarks - I don't know what you mean???

He doesn't have a leg to stand on. Don't let him be such a 'cop out' in your and DS's lives.

I think 'Do you take NO fucking interest in your sons life at all??? etc etc etc' would have just slipped out - without a censored thought!

Men! If I were you, every time the talk of school comes up I'd change the name a little, just to see if he is paying attention. If nothing else will make you smile.

TSC - did you find someone? Can any of us help at all?

YABU your dh was at work and he would not have been seeing it as a school thing I agree w the poster that said had you put "ds has got into" it would have been diferent
but to be truthful I dont think I would have got the text either.. and he didnt text back saying "so what" he didnt get it so asked for clarification imo thats a good thing He was interested and responded

Isn't that normal. My DP ambles through life without a bloody clue what's going on right under his nose.

The only time I've bawled mine out was when 9 month old was ill, choking, turning blue, I was screaming for dp to come and help while holding ds upside down trying to clear his throat and get him breathing again. Got it sorted, sat on the floor clutching son in one hand while clearing up sick with the other, when DP finally appears to ask me to be less noisy because he was on the phone.

They're just like that!

kif - at stretch marks

Errr...not entirely sure it's just dh's. I have been so taken up with work and mumsnetting that I had managed to forget that tonight is the review night with ds's SENCO. In my defence, had been marking 41 exams in one day and teaching ^and trying to organise a conference. Fortunately, ds has a dad who takes an interest in his education...