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Original poster

To want my DD home NOW!!!

28 replies

LEMneedsaholiday · 19/04/2010 21:24

My DD like so many others is stranded in Malaga and im worried sick. She is 19 and with her 24 year old BF, but they don't seem to be able to get it together with a plan of action. I just want her home Her flight isnt due until tomorrow anyway, but obviously even if they do open the airspace tomorrow IF then I can't see her getting a flight until the backlog is cleared.

I know she is 19, i know she is lucky that she is not stranded with small children, that she is fit and healthy and perfectly able to kip on the airport floor if she has to but that isn't stopping me from wanting to teleport her home right now

Her BF is a sensible sort, but a bit dappy and tends to be ruled by my headstrong but slightly awaywith the fairies DD. I have suggested that they book into a hotel for a few extra days, ive even offered to pay - now i can't get in touch with her and am just waiting for the fucking phone to ring.

I know im being unreasonable because there are people in worse situations over this and its probably a great adventure for her but shes my baby and i feel like a pacing lioness.

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nickytwotimes · 19/04/2010 21:25

Yanbu to want your kid home at all.
Of course there are people worse off, but she is your baby! Hope she makes it back soon.

CirrhosisByTheSea · 19/04/2010 21:27

Aww YANBU at all, I'm sure I would feel the same

however I am sure it will be fine. And it's all part of growing up, to be able to deal with unexpected situations like this. You've said it yourself; it will be a bit of an adventure for her really. I'm sure she and her BF will look after eachother

AnyFucker · 19/04/2010 21:27

aww, lem

she will be home soon

hang on for your baby x

seeyoukay · 19/04/2010 21:28

Chill.

If you really want them home and they can't fly tell them to get a bus/train to Madrid then to Santander.

Finally get the overnight ferry to Portsmouth.

Sorted. Or just tell them to wait it out, they'll only be fucking each other to within an inch of their lives anyway.

You never know you may end up with a volcano grandson.

luciemule · 19/04/2010 21:29

I honestly think she'll be fine. If the volcano hadn't erupted, then she would still be in Malaga until tomorrow and you wouldn't be worried. At 19, she's well and truly old enough to take care of herself and if she was that dappy, then she wouldn't have been able to cope going to spain in the first place. I could understand you being worried if there'd been a natural disaster in malaga but having to wait for a flight isn't worth worrying about. They'll be fine.
I don't mean to sound harsh but her BF is 24. Unless he's completely useless, then he'll take care of her so stop worrying.

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alicet · 19/04/2010 21:30

She will be on the flight tomorrow as long as the airspace opens as planned since people who are booked onto flights are not going to lose their seats to people who have been stranded (been reading a lot about this on BBC website today as have a friend who is stranded and whose Dad is critically ill and may well not survive until he gets back).

Fingers crossed it all opens tomorrow and you will have worried over nothing.

YANBU though - sure I will be the same about my boys!

drinkyourmilk · 19/04/2010 21:32

Of course you are going to worry - you're her mum, but i think you need to chill a bit. You said she's not even due home till tomorrow. Please tell me you haven't been bugging her during her scheduled holiday time about a problem she has no control over, and really didn't effect her till today-ish.

Have a cup of tea, and trust her. She's an adult I'm afraid.

(so yanbu to worry- it's your job, but you are a teensy bit dramatic, and I'd be cross if you'd bugged me on my holiday)

MmeLindt · 19/04/2010 21:32

YANBU
I don't know about her not flying tomorrow though, I thought that those with a valid ticket get put on their flight, and they fill the flight with those whose flights have been cancelled over the weekend?

Swanky · 19/04/2010 21:33

YANBU at all, I would be the same
xx

JaneS · 19/04/2010 21:34

YANBU, I bet we all feel like that about people who're stranded! Practically - can you transfer her some money? My little brother got stranded on a trip to Morocco last year and it was quite easy for mum to wire money into his bank account - meant that he could find a hotel (of sorts ... he likes dossing) to check into instead of sleeping on the street, which was the only option before the money came through.

I don't even know if money/place to stay is part of your worries, so this may be useless; if so, apologies.

I can't think of anything bad that would happen to her, she's with her boyfriend after all - the worst will be that she really, really is grateful for a looong soak in the bath and a good night's sleep when she gets home!

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LEMneedsaholiday · 19/04/2010 21:36

seeyouokay - have just spat what was left of my wine !!!! A'm now thinking of suitable names for a child conceived in the wake of a volcanic eruption. She is on facebook now i might actually suggest your suggestion to her - thanks

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LEMneedsaholiday · 19/04/2010 21:53

oh fuck, her flight cancelled, cant get a flight until the 27th!!

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MmeLindt · 19/04/2010 21:55

Ach, just see it as an extension of her holiday LEM.

Ask her if Malaga is full of drunk Germans.

AnyFucker · 19/04/2010 21:58

bloody hell !

it looks like they are going to honour existing flights then, and not put the stranded people on planes first (this has been reported on the BBC)

luciemule · 19/04/2010 21:58

Gosh - can she get money from cash points?

wannaBe · 19/04/2010 22:04

yes if you're booked on a flight that is due to fly then you take priority. It's people who have already missed flights that have to wait.

Theresnoplacelikehome · 19/04/2010 22:04

They won't put make people wait who's flights are operating in order to use their seats for people who have been stranded. It's not fair and ruins twice as many holidays that way.

AnyFucker · 19/04/2010 22:06

I see

selfishly, that makes me feel better

we fly in a couple of weeks

sorry, LEM !

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LEMneedsaholiday · 19/04/2010 22:20

Her flight is cancelled, does that mean she is at the back of the list?

they have £400 between them, i think they have there cards with them but they have no money!

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JaneS · 19/04/2010 22:26

LEM, if they have cards, you can wire money from your account to your daughter's. Mind you, 400 pounds for a week sounds ok to me - is it very expensive out there?

Fluffyone · 19/04/2010 22:26

£400 isn't too sad is it? I'm sure they will ask you if they need help. It's understandable you are worried, but they are adults and together, they will be fine. Try to stay calm.

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LEMneedsaholiday · 19/04/2010 22:47

Bloody kids!!!! I am not so much panicking as frustrated!! They just don't dont seem to be able to get their act together and make a decision. I think they are going to pitch up at the airport tomorrow, but the next "bookable" flight isn't until the 28th. They are flying with Easy cunts jet so not expecting much in the way of accomodation help - understandable i guess.

We can send them some money if they run out but we cant really afford for it to be more than a loan

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LEMneedsaholiday · 19/04/2010 23:01

alicet, for your friend.

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JaneS · 19/04/2010 23:05

LEM, can they sleep in the airport? They are 19 and 24 - my friends and I have done our fair share of dossing down in airport waiting areas overnight, and it's not fun but it is possible, even for a few days.

It might be that they're finding it hard to get their act together because things look less certain from where they are.