Or just stupid.
The situation: I have 2 children by my ex, we separated 7 years ago...no problems there, we are amicable for the kids etc.About a year after we split up he came to me saying a girl said she was pregnant with his baby, I wasnt overly surprised because he was acting like a prat with women at the time sleeping around a lot. They went on to have the baby, moved in together, declared undying love for each other, got preggers with another one and then got married. 6 months later it all fell apart and he left her because (and I am not exagerrating here) she was a complete loon. She sat around the house on online bingo, shouting at the kids whilst he worked allday then came home, did everything for her, the kids etc. She became abusive towards him phyically etc, even got him arrested for nothing once. In short he had enough. He has since found out that the first baby isnt his (although he still wants to take responsibilty for him) the second one is but she wont let him see either of them. She has a restraining order to stop him from making contact with her or the first child and because of this he says he cant make arrangements to see the second child. He now hasnt seen them for over 6 months. He says he has been advised that he may never see them again or at the very least it wont go to court for another 12 - 24 months.
I find it all so absurd..how is it possible that he can have all his rights as a father stripped away? Why is there nothing he can do abuot it? I want to ring her and give her a good piece of my mind. Last night my 11yr old son was sobbing his heart out that he was never going to see his brothers again (and hes not a crier usually)and as a Mum I so strongly want to tell him that he can and I'll sort it out, but can I help in this situation or is it unreasonable of me to try?