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Original poster

To be browned off with my husbands niece

33 replies

RedRedWine1980 · 14/04/2010 21:43

The problems started over a year ago- when my then 4 year old was 'nasty' to her when she took her out, and hurt her feelings- which she got disciplined for and told in no uncertain terms how unacceptable it was. My DH tried to contact his niece to tell her this but no reply.

Next issue came about eight months after that when she told her Gran (my MIL) that she 'reckoned' she saw me in the car (in a place and time where I wasnt) and stuck the v's up at her.

Now my DH phoned her and again no reply, so text her saying we have no idea what she was on about, couldnt have possibly been me on that day as im in uni. She text back going 'oh i wasnt being funny I just said it LOOKED like her'

So we plod along a few months on and her and her mum (my SIL) go to the same keep fit class as me and my mate. Everytime ive been its been me made the conversation, said hello asked how she is etc. Toinight I cba quite frankly but she looked over and as i was about to wave she just turned away totally blanking me.

AIBU to be bothered by this- she is 25 btw but I just cant be arsed with some peoples rudeness

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parakeet · 14/04/2010 21:48

You should say to her:

"Am I bovvered? Am I bovvered?

"Does my face look bovvered?"

Minshu · 14/04/2010 21:50

So your SIL isn't friendly when you see her, either?

MrsMeow · 14/04/2010 21:50

Gosh, until I read down to the keep fit part, I honestly thought you were talking about a child - or at the very most an early teen here.

That says it all I think. Ignore her!

Original poster
RedRedWine1980 · 14/04/2010 21:54

SIL is normally friendly but today I made a distinct effort to keep my distance to see if she really is just being an ignorant fookwit so didnt get chance for SIL to say hello either

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Minshu · 14/04/2010 22:01

I'd not waste too much energy on the niece's behaviour, but don't to sink to her level, either - she sounds very immature. Just keep speaking to her mum and ignore the fact you are being ignored (iyswim).

It's hard not to be bothered by these things, though, isn't it? I've had a similar experience recently and DP telling me to ignore the silly ol' bat (uncle's wife) doesn't really make any difference to how it makes me feel.

Pepsiginn · 14/04/2010 22:05

Yeah - seriously - just ignore it and don't waste anymore time agonising about it.
It's just not worth it.

scottishmummy · 14/04/2010 22:10

most entertaining all the she said/i said.you should act the villain ahnd give her the v when no one looking.whisper you caooooooooow as she passes. i'll ave you toots

then demurely and vehemently deny it when challenged

What me

thelunar66 · 14/04/2010 22:15

LOL at scottishmummy's idea. I'd go with that one for sure

outnumbered2to1 · 14/04/2010 22:19

sorry but any 25 year old who gets upset when a 4 year old is "nasty" to her needs a good boot in the backside.....

sounds like little miss 25 year old is a right little besom and should be treated with the contempt she deserves. Or play her at her own game.

scottishmummy · 14/04/2010 22:22

LOL 25yo dissed by a 4yo,maybe she met her intellectual superior and didnt like it

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RedRedWine1980 · 14/04/2010 22:24

PMSL Scottish! Might just try that! Except shes heeeugee (and im not stick insect I can tell you) and might sit on me!

She was in a vile mood about when my daughter was mean to her for like 6 months.

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OrmRenewed · 14/04/2010 22:25

May I have a word with your DH's neice please? Pretty please? I am feeling quite poisonous atm and it would make me so much happier to have a go at a silly self-obsessed cow like that.

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RedRedWine1980 · 14/04/2010 22:26

Please make it MESS Orm if you choose one- just to really upset her

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scottishmummy · 14/04/2010 22:31

my word would be malky as in i'll malky you if you diss ma wean again

outnumbered2to1 · 14/04/2010 22:33

Red Red Wine - please tell us what your daughter said that was so nasty? i bet she made a comment about her size? she did didn't she? go on tell us please

Scottish - i would have said Chib but then again i am a ned.... lol

cornsilk · 14/04/2010 22:33

what is your daughter supposed to have done exactly? This woman sounds like a total nightmare.

RedTartanLass · 14/04/2010 22:36

Ahh yes please tell us what she said

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RedRedWine1980 · 14/04/2010 22:41

She called her a fat witch which she got very told off about and we had a chat about peoples feelings and how everyone is different fat thin people dont deserve to be mocked etc...
Wish I hadnt bothered now

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scottishmummy · 14/04/2010 22:42

maybe she does possess those attributes
maybe your wean is sharp as a tack

outnumbered2to1 · 14/04/2010 22:43

the question i would ask is what did she do to your daughter that made your daughter call her a fat witch

scottishmummy · 14/04/2010 22:48

did she sherrick the wean wearing a pointy hat and spanx?

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RedRedWine1980 · 14/04/2010 22:51

My daughter although she is told right from wrong and she does get discipline believe me she takes after her mother lol and if someone is going on at her that bit too much she will tell them what she thinks of them....I was very dissapointed at the time and dont like her talking to anybody like that but cant say im that fussed now shes acted like such a blood babyish prick

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outnumbered2to1 · 14/04/2010 22:55

good for your 4 year old that she put the stupid childish fat witch of a 25 year old in her place and the fact that she is still harping on and on about it shows clearly that your 4 year old daughter is much more mature than her 25 year old cousin.

roselover · 14/04/2010 22:57

one of my nieces' school friends told her god mother to "kiss my arse" when she was about three - this was with actions mind you - we all laugh about it ....the kids are 11 now - not normally naughty kids doing/saying naughty things have got to be dealt with and then everyone has to move on...or you get stuck in situations like this - I think she has an issue with her body imagine...and as they say ...out of the mouths of babes..... maybe there is a bigger in law issue invisibly out there - in laws...even the words make me shudder....

claw3 · 14/04/2010 23:00

Sounds very Eastenders

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