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to be unsypathetic to this pg "friend" on facebook

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pud1 · 14/04/2010 13:08

i use the term friend loosly as i havent seen her since school as i have moved away but she is constanly posting about how bad she feels being pg.
every time i read a comment i tut to myself. she is 11 weeks and for the past 8 or so weeks she has just moaned about being tired, feeling sick, being bloated..... she puts a new comment on about 3 times a day. the lastest is regarding wanting to go to bed. i remember being pregnant and it can be a pain but ffs just get on with it.

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thesecondcoming · 14/04/2010 17:57

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SoupDragon · 14/04/2010 18:02

I'm glad you've "defriended" them. They're probably better off without you.

Bumperliouzzzzzz · 14/04/2010 18:17

YABU. Being pregnant is shit, and I don't mind telling people that as maybe they will appreciate the effort I put into dragging myself into work, or even just talking to them without wanting to vomit or just lay on the floor and sleep.

5DollarShake · 14/04/2010 19:11

God, some people know how to overreact, don't they? And I do not mean the OP.

All this 'you're an utter bitch' nonsense - WTF?!

The OP is just having a bit of an anonymous vent on here about an FB 'friend's dull and monotonous updates - what's wrong with that?

Easy solution though, as everyone else has said - hide or delete. And it seems like pud has deleted. Now everyone's happy.

I'm as sympathetic as the next person (although not to attention whores, which FB seems to attract like flies ) and am pregnant myself, but have to admit this would have me rolling my eyes to high heaven, too...

MrsDmamee · 14/04/2010 19:11

When I was feeling like total cr*p during this pg (from wk4-wk16) I wasnt even able to log into FB nevermind updating my status.
I even had a friend text me asking was I ok because I hadnt been online in ages.

and now at 29 weeks and feeling much better I still havent written a single word on FB about my pg.

fartblossom · 14/04/2010 19:16

I too think its a bit harsh of some people to call the OP names just cos she is getting fed up of someone who she has admitted she doesnt really know going on and on about how horrible shes feeling.

If its someone close to you or something really serious you dont mind the odd life's crap status, but if its someone you dont really know and they're going on and on and on about how bad things are for them then it does get tiresome and you do start to lose sympathy for them.

SoupDragon · 14/04/2010 19:20

Why on earth would you have someone you don't really know as a facebook friend? Totally weird.

Mooncupflowethover · 14/04/2010 19:23

'Ffs, just get on with it'????

Are you kidding? I'm with your friend on this one. I complained, whinged and moaned to just about anyone who cared to listen, including complete strangers!!

Give her a break. And anyway, why are you so concerned? She sounds like she's not much more than an old acquaintance now.

Rockbird · 14/04/2010 19:28

"I too think its a bit harsh of some people to call the OP names just cos she is getting fed up of someone who she has admitted she doesnt really know going on and on about how horrible shes feeling."

So what exactly is the OP doing? Exactly the same thing as her friend that's what! This was such a non issue but she thought she'd come on here and tell us so we could all pat her on the back and tell her how much we sympathise. Glass houses and all that...

fartblossom · 14/04/2010 19:30

She was feeling unsypathetic about someone and wanted to know if they were BU about it. Its no need to call them names for it.

Rockbird · 14/04/2010 19:39

And she really couldn't decide that for herself? It's hardly a difficult decision.

'Do I really want to know the every waking movement of someone I barely know and don't even like?' Hmm, tough one.

She was looking for someone to say 'aw diddums' and tell her she was a lovely person. Sorry but that lovely person doesn't really come across in the op hence people's responses. Don't post in AIBU if you want sympathy.

odette123 · 14/04/2010 20:10

Don't defriend her or you'll miss out on:-

  1. Scan photos - FYI only the parents find these remotely interesting
  2. blow by blow accounts of all the arguments/crying fits she's had because her hormones are going crazy
  3. the anticipation of finding out if the baby (of a woman you barely know) is a boy or a girl
  4. how bad the birth was (worse than anyone elses in the history of the world) about 4.2 secs after delivery via Mobileweb

...I could go on. Gotta love Facebook

And about a year later you'll meet her in the street and she'll tell you how much she loved being pregnant

fartblossom · 14/04/2010 20:14

I didnt get the impression she was looking for 'aw diddums' I thought she was unsypathetic and wanted to know what other people would do in that situation. I dont think she thought about hiding or deleting them she was just wondering what other peoples opinions are. Which she has got. Some agree and some dont, but hey thats life.

MadamDeathstare · 14/04/2010 20:44

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fartblossom · 14/04/2010 21:03

I hated those so Ive hidden farmville amongst others. Much better.

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