if DH doesn't want to go to a wedding ...?

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A good colleague of mine is getting married and is inviting DH and me to the wedding. DH has never met her (and has only met a couple of my other colleagues momentarily) and doesn't want to go.

I am a wee bit put out by this but I have no wish to try to pressure him into going to something he won't enjoy and I'm quite capable of having fun without him.

But can anyone tell me, is it a bit weird to accept an invitation for both of you by saying only one of you is coming?

I would not put my DH through this tbh.

He hates weddings!

Say he is babysitting and you fancy a girly night with your colleagues.

Not at all, ,y dh is a miserable sod & I go to loads of things on my own. For years I amde excuses, work, illness, now I just tell everyone he's grumpy & doesn't want to go!

Not at all, especially if you have chlidren and can use childcare as an excuse.

TBH you really shouldn't have to make an excuse, you can say 'thank you very much, I will be coming but DH will not be'. Your cooleague might well be thrilled to have a spare place for someone she actually has met.

I think it is okay, so long as you make an excuse for dh - say he has work commitments or is looking after the dc.

No not at all. Just give a decent excuse! If they aren't close friends I am sure the colleague would prefer to not spend the extra on another mouth to feed.

Maybe I am odd but I would be very put out if DH did not attend with me. I can understand he may not fancy it but to not make the effort?

If you have children tis a perfect excuse btw, say you cannot arrange any childcare and he'll have to stay to look after them. Unless it's like a year away and then she may think you're a bit of a weirdo knowing a year in advance that you cannot get a babysitter

I'm sure they won't mind if you just accept for yourself. But as others have said - I think your DH should make an effort out of courtesy.
I often go to things where I don't know anyone, to accompany DH, and he does the same in return. Your DH will know you, and presumably he is capable of speaking to some strangers for a few hours.

Would he be happy for you to reply by saying 'DH doesn't want to come because he doesn't know you' if not, then he knows its a bit lame.

I'm sure the couple won't be put out in the slightest - the invitation was basically to you, but included DH since most people would want to be able to bring their DH/DP with them to a wedding. If he doesn't want to go, I guess it depends if you are happy to go along without him - for me, I'd see if other colleagues might be in the same situation and go as a group.

My DH is the same: hates weddings, esp if he does not know the people getting married, generally needs cajoling to socialise unlessit's with established friends and in a setting he knows.
A few years ago, he more or less refused to go to a wedding we had been invited to and accepted the invitation to (well, i had accepted on our behalf). I was a bit shocked and disappointed but he was adamant because he thought the groom was a tosser. In the end, i thought why drag him there, he will indeed hate it, he'll moan, etc so i went alone.
The wedding was lovely, i really enjoyed myself, i knew one or two couples there, everyone was friendly. Great day / evening.
Turns out the couple split up 6 weeks after the wedding due to the groom's ongoing infidelity. Needless to say, my DH milked it for years afterwards, saying he had been right all along about the guy, how he was glad not to have bothered going. Whatever.
Point is, don't drag your DH, go alone, have a fab time and store up some brownie points with your DH: next time he wants you to do something boring like dinner with his old uni friends or something, you can bow out with impunity!